When I had my miscarriage and I was at the ER.  The Dr removed the baby from me (it was stuck in my cervix, trying to come out).  He had the nurse put it in a container and remove it from the room.  He asked me and my DH if we wanted genetic testing done.  We decided on the spot that we did NOT want it done.  It was my 1st miscarriage and we also knew that insurance would not cover the expense.  My OB did not see it was necessary (found this out the next day, though).  So we declined.  About 2 weeks ago we get a bill in the mail for $1482 from a genetics testing labroatry.  This so called bill was an itemization of everything that they did to my "baby."  Yes, it was a baby to me!  To these Dr and scientists it was "just a fetus."  The description of the tests and procedures done to my "baby" were very graphic and horrific to me in nature.  I couldn't beleive what I was reading.  I called the genetics lab and asked what this was for and they explained that the ER Dr ordered the testing be done.  I told them , they need to bill him then b/c we declined the testing and were not paying for it.  Of course the woman on the phone said that would not happen and since I am the patient, I am responsible.  So I made several phone calls to the hospital and the ER and the ER director to try and get this resolved.  (still in the process, it is mine and DH's word against the DR).  But before I did all of this, I explained to the woman on the phone how the graphic nature of the bill should be changed.  I had just lost a baby and then had to read in detail how they disected it, etc, etc.  Seriously, you should see this itemization.  The woman had the nerve to tell me that I was the only one that had ever complained about the nature of the billing and the descriptions on them.  She told me that most people understand SCIENCE and understand SCIENTIFIC TERMS.  And that I needed to see this as SCIENCE.  I started crying and even though I wanted to yell and cuss her out.  I decided to tell her that she had no heart to talk to me the way that she was.  I told her that my baby was not a "scientific experiment" to me or my family.  She told me that is exactly what my baby was to her company...a scientific experiment.  I hung up on her immediately, I was soooo upset.  I was at work when I made this call and a co-worker came in and read the bill and I told her about the conversation and she insisted that I let her call them back and speak to a supervisor and cuss everyone out.  I just couldn't deal with it anymore I was so devastated!  So I let that go...FOR NOW!  In the midst of not getting anyone to help me out with this bill and the "mix up" that occurred from ordering the testing, my DH and I decided we would find out the results.  If we are going to have to pay for it, then we might as well find out what they say.  Of course the hospital doesn't know where the results are, the ER Dr will not return calls.  So I called my OB today to see if she could help.  Well....she had them for the passed two weeks and just hadn't called me yet!!!!  AGGHHH!!!  So she tells me today that the results showed no genetic abnormalities and I shouldn't have a problem getting PG or staying PG with DH baby.  She also said they were able to tell that the baby had female genetics.  Not knowing what that meant, she explained it is highly likely I was going to have a girl!!!!  I had no idea they could even tell something like that.  But for $1400 they better be able to do a whole heck of a lot!!!!
Sorry for the long post.  I have been wanting to get on here for a couple of weeks and rant about this, but just couldn't bring myself to talk about it all yet.  Knowing it was a girl has made me feel a little better for some reason.  I did not have any ideas when I was PG what I was going to have.  But for some reason after I lost the baby, I just felt like it was a girl.  We even decided last week to name her Grace Ciel.  Then I find out today that it was most likely a little girl.