Well, since we hadn't been trying for very long AND hadn't told anyone, I won't enter my two cents' worth, but I will be reading this thread often so that I know what NOT to say! I have learned (from some other posts) that saying "just relax and it will happen" or "it will happen when you least expect it" is just D-U-M-B! I can't remember now who said it, but they were right (and forgive me for paraphrasing), "since I'm charting my BBTs and using OPKs and POAS from 7DPO until AF, just exactly when is it that I am LEAST expecting it?!?" Well said!

worst thing said to me was by my sister and really is isnt her fault b/c i kept TTC a secret but when I finally told her we had been trying for 2 years she just said...."well now you can really get serious about it!" WHAT get serious????.......are you seriously saying that crap???? She doesn't want any kids so I guess it is hard for her to understand how I feel.

~Ashley

Ashley,
UGH! As if you'd been "just fooling around" for 2 years.....what the heck do some people think "trying to conceive" actually means?!?!?

Oops! I wasn't gonna comment on this thread, was I?

My brother keeps making jokes that he and his girlfriend are making babies. (They're still in college). He says it because he thinks it will get a rise out of me, but little does he know!!! lol!

I did post in the"Just for Fun" section, a list of annoying things I found on another website, and it's soo true!!

I hate: "My husband looks at me and I get pregnant"...heard that a few times.

And being told that yet ANOTHER coworker is pg. This past year that we've been ttc, 13 women have been pregnant. This doesn't even count the men that work here, whose wives are pregnant! That adds at least 5 more.

Also, the ever-popular "Everything happens for a reason". I'm a good person, and I really believe I deserve motherhood. I don't see a reason why I'm not pg, but this girl that had a drunken one night stand, and doesn't even want a baby, was pg. AND, she ate mounds of shrimp, AND smoked!

This venting is super-therapeutic! lol!

Or there's the "Christian-ese" one I get all the time........"It will happen in God's timing". I know that statement is true, but it's still incredibly irritating.

And here's another one that some of you fellow Christians out there might understand......There are a lot of Christians who subscribe to the theory that if you speak negatively about the situations in your life, then negative things will happen. I agree that this is true to a certain extent (like if you're always saying "I can't do this", then you never will), but my mom recently implied to me that I had caused my miscarriage because I called her when I first started spotting and was saying that I just had a bad feeling about it. I could hardly believe that she was actually saying that to me, and it was all I could do to bite my tongue instead of biting her head off. lol I know she means well, and she loves me, but I'm sorry........my instinct that something was off was not the CAUSE of my miscarriage.

Katie....I got those "Christian-ese" sayings all the time when I was single. (I didn't get married until I was 30, which, now that I think about it, isn't that "old" in my book anymore...huh!) But as much as you know it's true and want to have that kind of unwavering faith, you're still human and you want what you want. And when you want something as badly as that, it is hard to be "rational" or patient. Plus, it always felt like it was the married gals (or in your case, moms) who were saying it anyway, so in an odd way, I can relate.

Thanks Jennifer! yeah, I didn't get married until just a few months before my 29th b-day, so I've been hearing the same thing for years, just in reference to different matters. lol And it's easy to look back now and say that the waiting wasn't so bad considering the blessing I've recieved, but it's when you're in the midst of waiting that it feels like an eternity.

LOL! Jennifer, that was me that said that.
IF I'm charting my bbt, scheduling BD'ing because of OPK's, checking my CM, ordering PreSeed and Softcups and HPTs, yadda yadda yadda, I'm ALWAYS going to expect it!! Exactly when will I LEAST expect it??

I always get that one and my BFF isn't sure what to say because they're not ready to have kids yet so she's just blatently honest with me and says 'Well. Keep trying. That's all I got.' She knows that there's nothing really encouraging she can say to me that I haven't heard before, except to just keep trying! We're not the 'sugar coating' type to each other and that's what's refreshing. We rely on each other for brutal honesty, but not negativity. And there is a difference. But the difference lies in the delivery AND the reception.

No one knows that we are TTC again. However when we announced back in June that we were expecting baby # 2...

My 84 year old german millionaire STINGY B*TCH of a grandmother says to me:
"OH YOU NEED ANOTHER CHILD, LIKE YOU NEED ANOTHER WHOLE IN THE HEAD"!!!!

WTF!!!!!!!!!! GEE DON'T YOU FEEL BAD NOW!!

WAY HARSH Mary ....way harsh!!! People should really just follow the old rule ....if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all!!!!!! Sorry she said that to you

~Ashley