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Well, I would love to report that we got the BFGL (big fat green light) to start TTC again. We did not. We got a BFRL (big fat red light). We got the green light to start Bding again but with protection. Hmph!
Good news is that my body is back to "normal" and everything seems to be in good working condition. Apparently, I do not have a problem getting pregnant and should not have a problem "getting" pregnant in the future. Problem is I will possibly have a next to imposiible chance of staying pregnant (carrying baby to term) with DH! I brought the records that I had from the hospital/OB from when I was pregnant with my son. They clearly state that I am O positive! My current Dr showed me 2 different lab results showing I am O neg. Saw them with my own eyes. I had my blood taken last Thursday afternoon at my OB office and the blood was sent to the hospital next door to be tyoed, etc. Results: O neg. That Thursday night when we had to go to the ER they took my blood again before they gave me the rhogam shot and it was the same lab that analyzed the results and it says O neg. They took my blood again yesterday and my OB Dr is sending them to a different lab just to be sure and having them type my blood again (in case the O neg is what is wrong) and they are testing for the antibodies in my blood. Basically, if I am O neg and if my blood came in contact with my son's blood during delivery (I had a C-section and Dr says it is highly likely I was exposed to his blood) then my body could have built up antibodies against any foreign blood type other than my own. Considering DH is A Positive, the baby we conceive will be positive. If the antibodies have already built up since I was not given the shot then even the rhogam shot would not prevent my body from attacking my baby (resulting in M/c everytime). I will not know the results of the test until Mon or Tues. More Waiting!!!
I asked my Dr to be very candid with us and give us worst case scenario so I can prepare myself but hope for the best! She said if I have the antibodies, then the previous hospital really screwed up and would have caused me to not to be able to carry a biological child with my DH (or any man that has the positive factor) I'm not worried about that. I'm worried about having a child with my DH. For those of you who don't know. My son is from a previous relationship. Dr said that if this is the case, she will send me to a high risk specialist and they may have options for me. (sperm donor and IVF with my blood type, etc) I just can't imagine this. I am so upset but really trying to think positive. Maybe this lab is wrong and I am O positive (but would they really be wrong twice in a 24 hr period and done by 2 different lab techs and they both make the same mistake twice?) Or maybe, if Iam O neg then maybe my blood did not come in contact with my son's and I have not built up the antibodies...meaning that the rhogam shot will help me to stay pregnant next time. My DH and I have decided if the hospital in NC messed up and caused this, we will consult an attorney and see if we have a case. They could've stolen our dreams and chances of having a child together. We are trying not to go there yet, but it is ao hard to stay positive right now after everything that has happened in the last week. Fortunaely, my DH is very positive and he says no matter what the results are he still knows that we will have another baby in our family, whether it is from adoption, sperm donor, etc! Just sucks when him and I are fertile, are healthy and this whole blood type thing is what is messing us up. It blows my mind. Thanks to all you ladies that have been so supportive and caring. I really appreciate it.
One piece of advice to you TTC ladies out there...If this is your first pregnancy, make sure you know your blood type and if you have the RH neg factor, make sure you get a shot after delivering the baby. It can protect you and your future babies!!!! Even if you don't think you will have more than one baby...make sure you get the shot!!! You never know what can change! Good luck to you all!
~Kim~
Oh Kim,
I am so sorry, what a whirlwind roller coaster you are on right now. Can't even imagine all the emotions your are feeling..... Know that you are in my thoughts and that we are here to lean on through all of this.
I am going to cross my fingers that the lastest tests were wrong and that it all works out the way you are hoping for!
Hugs,
Elizabeth
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Kim, oh no! I'm so sorry about all this trouble! I hope that things will work out for the absolute best for you and your family. I'm glad you are considering other options if needed, but I hope you and DH will be able to make a baby together.
Also, thank you so much for posting all the details, and giving us advice. I have no idea what blood type I am, so I'll definitely be finding that out.
Thinking of you and wishing you the best...
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***Jen***
Aw kim i am so sorry im tearing up reading this everything will work out at least your DH is verry supportive no matter what which is what you need in a time like this lots of love and support and i will keep you in my thoughts and prayers
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Kim,
I just read your results post. I am so sorry that you're going through all of this.
I will keep holding out hope and praying for a baby to come into your life, however you want it to. As always, keep us updated on your progress.
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We did it!!!!
Kim,
Really sorry that someone screwed up and you're paying for their mistake. I do have a question though, is it not possible for you and DH to conceive an RH neg baby? I don't understand the genetics behind it or anything, but I know for a fact that I am neg and DH is pos and our daughter is neg...my DH and I were both in the military and they type your blood incase something were to happen and you were to need blood. I'm just confused as to why we could have a neg. baby but you cannot... and if your son in RH neg then even if your blood mixed I don't see how you would have RH pos antibodies...maybe this m/c was just a fluke and your RH neg factor is the only thing to point it at....? I'm anxiously awaiting those antibody results to come back. I hope that you have nothing preventing you from getting that BFGL after those results. I really have hope for you that this will work out in your family's favor.
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Thanks Mabnng! I am trying to be more hopeful also. We do not know my son's blood type but I am calling the hospital where I had him tomorrow to see if they can send me copies of my medical records from when I had him. I really don't want to put him through having his blood drawn just to find out his blood type. He had his blood drawn when he was 3 yrs old due to some illnesses he kept getting and Dr thought he had an immune deficiency problem. The process was horrible. But they did not type his blood. My DH is A + and I am O-. O is always recessive so the baby would definitely be A unless others in his family are O (which they are all a mixture of Ab, A , B) in his immediate family. He would also have to have a strong blood line of relatives with the neg factor in order for our baby to be negative. We know for a fact that all of his immediate family (mom, dad, sis, bro) are all positive. There is still a chance that my son could be negative and I never made the antibodies against positive blood. So I am holding out for that. I just hope the results come back tomorrow instead of Tuesday. I have no patience and I am tired of waiting and wondering what our fate is going to be.
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Yeah I totally don't blame you...I hope they come today as well. It's not really fair that this is happening to you because of some lab techs careless mistake. What if you would have had to have a blood transfusion...they would have killed you. It just makes me so angry for you. I definitely think that you guys have a case against the lab that screwed up. BUT I'm really hopefully that your tests come back with no anti-bodies toward + blood
Keep us posted!!
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Kimmi so sorry keep positve.
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Thanks ladies! I am really hoping they call me today. She said it could be today or tomorrow but most likely tomorrow. I hate waiting. But I am trying to stay positive that I do not have the antibodies! Hope everyone is having a good Monday
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Kim, I am soooo sorry that you are having to go through this, that is just heart breaking! I really hope that there is a way you will be able to get through all of this and cary a healthy baby full term. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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