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Ella
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Hey girlies, So glad we have a page just for us ladies who have been through this for a while.... Smile My Dh (29) and I (29) have been married for almost 3 years and together for over 5 years now. We have been ttc for 25 cycles now. He has had the SA no issues, I ovulate on my own very reg cycle, hormones ok, I'm on cycle 2 of clomid in the 2ww (aaagggghhhh Crazy ) I am the lucky owner of stage 4 Endo which has caused us a great set backs. I had no clue that I had endo until I had exploratory (and treatment) surgery back in Sept. After the surgery I was put on Lupron a crazy powerful drug that "melts" any remaining endo, and basically shut down my entire 'lady system' putting me in temporary menopause. The worst 6 months of my life!!! We were not allowed to TTC until the drugs had cleared my system and I got my AF again. So we have been allowed to try for 2 months now and trying to get a boost with clomid. It has been a very long painful, emotional journey. I come from a very large family with no fertility issues, this has really opened my eyes that so many girls have trouble getting pregnant. I really wish we could let more girls know that it can be a long journey, so less unexpected confusion when they too find themselves in our shoes.
What tips and tricks can we share with each other? I just started acupuncture, am using pre-seed, soft cups, the good old 'pillow prop', ovulation testing, and BBT charting. Any other suggestions?
I am lucky to have the world's best DH who is so supportive, and the cutest doggies (2 shit ztus) they are what keep me going.
FX for some BFP this month.....

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Wow Ella, that seems like a crazy journey so far! You really seem to have a great attitude about it all, which is awesome. I agree, it's really nice to have a place for us that have been TTC for what seems like forever now....

I really don't have any tips, since obviously nothing has worked for me. I tried the softcups, but really felt like they were being anti-productive. Tried FertilAid, but after three months decided not to spend more money on that. Right now all I do is OPK's. I'm really bad at the BBT thing. I wake up at such random times, especially when my cat pounces on me early in the morning and I have to throw him out of the bedroom!!

Thanks for all the advice ladies. You're right, making that first call is going to be the hardest part. What really confuses me is back in August, my new OB did a blood test on me. She called to say the results were normal, but then immediately referred me to a fertility specialist. Why would she do this if there was nothing wrong? I think I'm going back to see a real OB (she was a nurse practitioner) and start from scratch.

Also, in your experiences, does insurance usually pay for all of these tests? My company told me that they will pay for everything up until they get a diagnosis of "infertile." I was a little confused as to what that entailed....

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Jessi- my insurance said the same thing...they would pay up to a certain amount for testing until I got diagnosed as infertile... I still had to pay for some of the bloodwork, and part of my office visit (b/c my insurance sucks) so if it would help you can always get things preauthorized first so there are no surprises. A lot of times doctors offices will help with making the calls to the insurance company and finding out what you'll be responsible for out of pocket. Are you taking any kind of prenatal? You definitely should be, even if it's not fertilaid. But i'm a huge believer that all prenatals aren't created equal...also fish oil supplement is a must (a good one though).

Ella, I don't have any other tricks either...you're doing everything I am, and, from reading the PG success stories, everything those ladies did to get their BFPs too! ....I really have enjoyed the acupuncture and energy work, and if nothing else I'm learning a lot about overall health. I have started taking some herbal supplements too, and am going to do a detox/cleanse in June if I don't get a positive in May. I know that toxins in our bodies can play a huge role in inability to get pg and sustain a pregnancy...so I"m trying to stop taking over the counter meds, and trying to get a little healthier (taking a liver purifier for example). I wish I would have known how much toxin build up could effect this journey a long time ago! ugh. I also know that (as TMI as this sounds) so much is related to your digestive tract...and if you're not having regular BMs, and digestion is tough, then that could be an issue. I just started taking a prenatal with a probiotic, and many people swear by those! I tried the softcups last month but kind of got paranoid because I wasn't sure if I was using them properly and felt like the baby batter was getting trapped on the wrong side of the soft cup (could that be?)... so I'm not sure I'll use them this month.
I hate the advice "stop stressing about it" but part of me kinda believes if I could maybe I'd get the postivie... but I wasn't stressing about it during our first 6 months, and look where that got me. So who knows.
How did you get diagnosed with endo? My doctor hasn't recommended testing me for it, but I wonder sometimes if I should go down that road...
I totally agree, I wish more people understood how truly difficult this could be...of course, I don't want to taint people either so there's a fine line there someplace which I suppose is different for everyone.

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Hi ladies! I'm new to this site, but I've been reading various threads for a few weeks now and I feel like I know some of you already!

I'm 27 and TTC for 16 months now, I'm at the point now where I need to join this site to talk to others that have been TTC for over a year. When I started TTC there were a few other friends that were right there with me - they now all have babies... My brother actually started to 'try' with his gf because it was taking me and DH so long and they got PG first time! So I'm now on the road to conceive solo so I need you!!!

Katie and Megan- I've been following your story through the thread TTC-First fertility appt and I think I felt every high and low with you. Everytime someone in my daily life tells me they are PG a little piece of me dies, but there are girls on here that I really pray get a BFP for soon Smile

Jessi - I had my OB refer me for bloodwork and an HSG - both required a diagnosis to be included in the referal, and if that states 'infertility' you might not be covered with insurance. (Not such a big deal for the blood tests, but the HSG can run $1000). All my tests have come back normal so far, but DH had a SA done a year ago and was a little on the low side for all three categories - quantity, motility and morphology. He's getting another SA done this week to compare/check for improvement.

Megan - did you get any advice for improving DH's sperm count? I've been forcing my DH to eat pumpkin seeds, and take a multivitamin! Do you know anything about L-carnitine supplements?

Good luck to you all, I look forward to seeing BFP's for everyone on here. Seeing a long-time TTC-er get a BFP gives me more hope than you know!

Gia

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Gia- Welcome!! for whatever it's worth, my DH had a SA done in October and his came back low motility... He had already been taking a multi vitamin, but I had him start taking grapeseed extract and L-carnitine... recently he had another SA and passed with flying colors...I'm not sure if the supplements helped (we also cut his caffeine intake by a LOT), but it's worth a shot! I hope you'll find this site to be a wealth of resource and support...it has saved me (I joined when DH and I were 15 months in as well so I totally get where you are!).

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Hey Everyone,

Well I get to officially join this thread now. I went off birth control exactly a year ago. Wow, if I only knew then what I know now....

For those of you that don't know me. I'm 31 and DH is 36. He has 5% morphology and we tried clomid one cycle (before we knew about DH). Next we're going to try IUI.

Jayne

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Thanks Butterfly! That's so great that the second SA came back good! There is hope for my DH then Smile If not - I will get him taking L-Carnitine. Have all of your tests come back good? I would like to know how you get diagnosed with endo too - I don't think that shows up on the HSG right?

Welcome Jayne! DH and I have considered IUI too after his first SA results were low. How many 'rounds' of IUI do they do per cycle - is it just one? Do they inseminate the day of O or the day before?

I still don't think I know my correct O date. I have the ovacue and for the last 3 months it has told me my most fertile day was CD 12, but this month I purchased the vaginal sensor and after yesterday's reading (CD 9) it said 'ovulation confirmed'-? I'm kind of annoyed b/c we had timed DH's SA perfectly so we could still BD before CD12, but now it seems like we missed the best day because he was 'abstaining' prior to his SA. We only BD'd on CD 6 this month so our chances don't look good Sad I guess that will at least help me relax and not get all over-excited and optimistic during the 2WW.

Does anyone else use the ovacue? I use it because I've never tested positive on an OPK and I can't chart temps very well (I wake up at random times every day, I forget to chart etc....).

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Hi Gia,
Yes, all our test results (HSG, blood, etc) are normal. I would like to know that about endo too... because we are currently diagnosed as unexplained infertility...really frustrating. I seem to ovulate just fine so don't really know much about ovacue... but something obviously isn't working so who knows! argh. Sorry you feel like it wasn't your month, that is tough especially as the months continue to roll by unsuccessfully...that time then feels like forever until you can try again!

Jayne, welcome to the club! hehe. seriously "if only" but alas... I thought DH and I were preparing well b/c I got off the pill about 5 years ago...I thought surely I would regulate my cycles (which I did) and hormones before TTC! Who knew we'd have so many problems with the actual TTC part. sheesh... I think hitting the 2 year mark will be hard for me...I thought about it last night, after our break and our vacation then I will only have Aug/Sept/October and then November cycle marks 2 years! CRAZY!

michaella
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I guys, I am happy that I have found people who understand what I am going through. I am now on cycle 75ttc. I have " unexplained infertility" , DH SA is ok so its depressing. My RE put me on 3 rounds of clomid but it didnt work. Every month I hope that I will see the the lines on the hpt but it doesnot happen. Right now I am on fertil aid, I hope it works.

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Hi Michaella,
75 cycles? Wow, you are impressively strong. A friend of mine just tried IVF for the first time after 8 years and is pregnant, so there definitely is hope, but we all know how frustrating it is month after month.
My DH and I also have unexplained infertility. It's almost to the point where I want something to be wrong just so I have a reason! sigh. Have you tried acupuncture or anything like that? I know several women who have had luck with that. I've gone for a few sessions but then couldn't afford it anymore, so am going to try and go back in August. I hope the fertilaid works for you! In the meantime, use this site as a resource as much as you need... the women here are full of so much knowledge it's incredible. Such a blessing...and you can vent all you want! Blessings and baby dust to you!