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butterfly99
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I'm sure when you're holding your newborn, the money you spent to get there will seem like pennies compared! Smile Of course, it's unrealistic to not have to consider finances, but don't get too wrapped up in that and let them become the ultimate driving factor (of course this coming from me who is completely overly paranoid about my financial future!). Are you still considering job hunting or putting that on hold now for this (oops never mind, you answered that in the fertility thread...I"ll just respond there hehe)? why does life have to be filled with tough decisions!!? ARGH.

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So I think DH are definately going to do the IUI and it will just depend on if the cyst is gone or not if we do the more aggressive plan or not. I still haven't found anywhere to go to school as it is anyway, and so I think we need to just focus on this right now. I am going to continue to job hunt, but more because I have a feeling that I might get laid off in the next few months anyway. My company keeps downsizing and I think the next round very well could include me.

All I can think about is "what if we really do it this with the IUI?!" How excited I would be and I agree, having that baby is worth every penny...

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Yes Jayne, it is worth every penny and it is very exciting to think you could be PG next month!!!

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Hey Everyone,

Really not much new, just thought I would say hi! I feel like we have a little more of a plan in terms of me job hunting/going back to school and fertility budgeting. I think we actually will be able to swing both me going to school and IUI if I just keep my job. So I think I will just try to ride it out as long as possible. I realized that if I switch jobs I won't likely have any maternity leave and at least with this job I would have some. So even though my heart isn't in it anymore, I think it makes more sense to try to stick it out.

Anyway I think I O'd yesterday and so we did manage to BD at like 2am Saturday morning and then Saturday night too. So I am really hoping we caught it this time and won't even have to do IUI! Smile I was telling DH yesterday that maybe this will be the month we get pg since I don't even feel like its a real cycle of trying since we are so anxious to do the IUI. So even though we did BD at the right time, I just don't feel super obsessed right now as I normally would. So I hope I can keep that mind set, either way so even if we didn't I won't be too unhappy if AF shows up.

I have a crazy week at work this week and then I'm taking Friday off for Memorial Day weekend because we're sort of going on vacation. We'll be out of town but DH will be playing in a sports tournament the whole time, so I'll probably be either just hanging out and watching or shopping by myself. Not super exciting but at least its a change of scenery and its always fun to stay in a hotel! Love Then AF should be due a couple days after we get back so hopefully the 2ww will go by quick!

Jayne

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Just a question for you ladies... have you given any thought to the magical "age" when you will stop trying? I know it's different for everyone but I was curious to get some thoughts on this. Obviously it is kind of a moving target for some people (like me!) but just was wondering...

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LOL@"moving target"! I know exactly what you mean! I just realized today that the chances of me actually having baby #1 before the age of 33 is getting slimmer and slimmer. Oy! But I guess the good news is that supposedly with PCOS your fertility increases with age, so maybe I'll have the last laugh yet. lol
Honestly, though, I can't see giving myself a cut-off point. I think there will come a time when we'll give up actually "trying", but I don't know if I would ever put myself back on birth control. Unless, of course, I keep miscarrying, because I wouldn't be able to handle that. Maybe in my mid-40's I'd give up, though, because I don't want to be a senior citizen before my kid graduates high school. Smile

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Moving target is a great way to describe it. I feel the same way Katie does, I can't see myself totally giving up anytime soon. Maybe when I hit my late 30s. After 16 months of trying I would l am thinking I will eventually get sick of tracking and obsessing, but that hasn't happened yet. All I know is that we (dh and I) are not getting any younger. Who would have ever thought it would take so long?

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I'm definitely sick of the tracking/obsessing. And I'm terrified that whenever we decide to stop trying that I won't be able to stop obsessing. I think the only way for me to stop is going to be getting back on birth control (IUD probably)... We used to think that we wanted to have our first by the time I was 34 and now I"ll be 35 before that happens, so I just don't know. I suppose thinking of it that way says it's my timing not Gods, so maybe I shouldn't be doing that, but it's tough sometimes...

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Hello Everyone,

I'm pretty new to this site, as well as TTC -- We are on month three, and boy am I happy to hear that I am not the only obsessive one about which days to BD. (I still don't know what all these abbreviations stand for!) My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 8 years and decided to start trying in April. I went off the pill in Feb. I am still trying to get a good sense of my cycle -- it has been 34 days, 30 days 32 days.... which I guess is close enough but I am so obsessive about knowing exact dates. I used an OPK and found the first month it was day 17 ( 17 days after day one of AF) and then the second month I tested thinking I would start early (earlier than day 17) to be sure and 'catch' it, and exactly on that day (14) it was positive. Neither time worked, (still TTC) I think we didnt BD enough leading up to the actual days of ovulation so this month we've been trying 'earlier'. But, now this month I have not yet found the positive ovulation...I started checking on day 12 -since last month it was on day 14, and have not had a positive since. Today is day 18! I thought it'd be yesterday or today but no luck... worried I may have missed it like someone wrote earlier. Or am I just not ovulating at all this month?? I try to test between 5 - 8 in the afternoon/evening. When should I stop trying to look ? I mean how many days after day one of AF is the latest one can ovulate?? Is this fluctuation of ovulation dates normal?? Any advice, thoughts greatly appreciated!

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Hi Hope-
BD= baby dance!! Smile Yes, you're definitely not alone in the obsession!! My cycles are 29-30 days so regular and I STILL obsess month after month, and several times within each month, and then several times a day when in the middle of ovulation!! haha.
I'm not sure why you didn't get a +OPK this month, but I suppose it's possible that you either missed it or didn't ovulate. if you're taking the test every day at the same time of day, it should turn positive for you, but I do know some women who take them 2x/day just in case. If your cycles are longer or irregular, then you could still get your positive this cycle too so I'd keep testing a couple more days if it were me. I think you're taking a great step by testing and tracking your cycles, but it may take 6 months to regulate from being off the pill- some women just take more time.
For me, when my cycle varies (by a day) it is the front part of the cycle that varies. My luteal phase is always 14 days...so I think it can be normal to have some fluctuation there. Of course, I'm still not pg either so what do I know!
Do you BBT chart? Cause that is a definite way to confirm ovulation, or have a blood test done to check your progesterone levels. Estrogen should be high first part of the cycle and progesterone 2nd half.
Good luck to you and feel free to ask as many questions as you want! Smile There's a lot of info on this forum under various threads too, and lots of womens experiences.