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butterfly99
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Wow, Tonya, that is amazing! God sure can move mountains. Smile
Sandy, definitely let us know how it goes, we'll be thinking about you!!!

So on the subject of testing, I have a story to tell... a friend of mine has been actively TTC for 6 months (off BC for longer, but not really trying), she was with some friends over the weekend, and these women were telling her that she was still young (30), didn't need to worry about testing, and should just stop worrying about it. I don't know why but I got SO annoyed with this advice. None of them had any trouble conceiving... so I'm spouting off to this friend about it being a personal choice, depending on your personality type, and what you're comfortable with... and then I realized that the advice really DID help her! So I felt like an ass... I totally thought we were in the same place with TTC, but she's obviously not in the really frustrated stage yet... and I find it hard for me to be optimistic to people, which is not good. Oops. I think I should stop talking to her about it, and let her figure out her own path...... not really sure my story had a point, but just felt like sharing. haha.

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Hey Everyone,

Well I just turned 31 and my DH is 36, and we are trying for our first. We started TTC in June 09 so we are coming up on a year. My cycles are about 25 days long so I've lost count at this point, but its been more than 11. Anyway, I've had a little bit of blood work done, and I'm really getting on DH to get scheduled for an SA. Its taken me forever to convince him to get the courage up to make the call, but he finally did this week and they said they'd call him back to schedule it and never did! I'm so frustrated!

I scheduled an appointment with an RE today. I haven't even told DH yet, because he's working late. But I'm just so fed up of getting no where and dealing with doctors that are not specialists. I actually tried Clomid last cycle, but I started spotting today and just don't feel PG at all so I'm 99% sure we didn't get pg again. I decided not to take Clomid again until we have DH's SA done and some better advice from an RE. I had a m/c or more accurately a chemical pregnancy in Nov. That happened on our 6th cycle of trying so I keep thinking we would have gotten pg again by now, but no luck.

Jayne

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Hi guys...don't feel bad I am 41 and 13months...ha ha ha and TTC #1. Question for ya, I am having an HSG soon, what's it like? Will I hate it? I am a little nervous since I read that comments about not wanting to do an HSG again.
Anyway I went to fertility specialist and he said I should do IVF and that time is ticking. He hadn't even examined me yet! So I don't want to do IVF, can't afford IVF..at least not with out a guarantee. I am still hoping to have a natural pregnancy if possible. All of my other test came back good so far...even my FSH! I am looking into going to a naprotechnology doctor who focuses more closely on getting your body ready to conceive and making sure it is functioning well without going the IVF route.

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Cara, I had a HSG in February... it was a really painful experience for me personally, but I do know a lot of women don't have any trouble with it. My doctor gave me a shot (tamadol...sp?) to block/numb the area before the procedure, and afterwards I took some ibuprofen as well. Just ask about a painkiller... the procedure itself doesn't take too long so just keep telling yourself it's almost over...and it's just really uncomfortable, like really really bad cramping/tightening/pressure... go to your happy place, practice yoga breathing... you'll be fine. And just keep in mind that it's one step closer to pregnancy... the HSG supposedly increases fertility for 3 months because it essentially flushes out your system... so that's a bonus (although didn't work for us!)...
There are lots of homeopathic remedies to try before going the IVF route... also IUI before IVF... do you see an acupuncturist? I think your doc is probably trying to suggest the IVF to be aggressive b/c of your age, but plenty of women get pregnant on their own in their 40s, so just do what you feel comfortable! Good luck and let us know how it goes!!!

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Cara- my experience with the HSG was the same as Butterflys. It was quick, but painful. I didn't get offered the numbing, but I took some tylenol before it. If you cramp during a pap smear (I do), I heard you will mostl liley cramp during the HSG. But it is worth it knowing about how your tubdes look and like Butterly said, some women get PG after it, not me though. Good luck! Oh yeah, I would also consider IUI before IVF too.

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Cara...........The HSG is definitely different for everyone. I've heard women come back from them saying they wonder what all the fuss is about, but for me it was pretty painful for about the 30 seconds while the dye was running through my uterus. After that I didn't feel a thing, but I had taken some ibuprofen before going in, so maybe that helped. It's definitely not a pleasant experience, but it's certainly not the end of the world either. lol And I would highly reccomend checking into IUI before IVF! Though he might be saying IVF because as we age the quality of our eggs degrade, so maybe he's thinking that if they harvest the eggs for IVF they could pick through them and find only the best to fertilize. With IUI you may be able to get pregnant, but my guess would be you'd be more likely to suffer miscarriage. I could be completely off-base on that, but you might want to do a little more reading on it.

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BFP- August 2009
M/C September 2009
Diagnosed with PCOS December 2009
Started Clomid January 2010
BFP May 2010 -  M/C same month
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Does anyone else obsess as much as I do with timing of BDing? I seriously need help. I started getting a light line on my OPK yesterday afternoon, and this morning it's totally positive...so even though I know we BDed Wed morning, I'm like "should we Thurs evening, Friday morning, no maybe Friday evening is better, Sat morning, Sat evening?"... it's not like I just obsess on the day of the week when to BD, I obsess about which HOUR of the day is better! LOL. i'm out of control. We even said we were really not going to obsess this month, but here I am, obsessing!! haha. I told DH that we probably didn't need to tonight, but is that too much time if we abstain until tomorrow night? ie. Wed morning BD, Friday night BD? or are we better off doing it tonight AND tomorrow night... OR skip tonight and go tomorrow morning? Then what about SATURDAY?!!! haha. I am a freak!

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I am just lurking but Butterfly I get the same way and without doing OPK's. Around the time I am ovulating I can't decide what day or time to do it and I try not to do it too close together or too far apart. I wish there was one guaranteed day where we knew for sure it would happen. That would be my vacation day each month Laughing out loud

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AMEN!! I've actually told DH, we should both call in sick and BD like bunnies on O day or the day before one month just for fun... I also wonder if maybe the day before O day is more important...like today I got a positive, so even though the directions say "best time for sex is after 24 hours but before 48 hours from getting the positive" maybe because it takes the little guys so long to reach their destination, maybe today is better? OYVAY!!!!! or tomorrow morning... yes, tomorrow morning...and maybe Saturday morning just for good measure...

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Oh yes, the obsession about timing. I totally do this, are we doing it too often, not enough, what if I O at 4 in the afternoon and we haven't BDed since the night before and we don't in the morning and.... aaaaggghhh

Last month I decided that there wasn't such a thing as doing it too much, which meant every night for like a week and a half! But I will feel better after we have the SA back, since in the back of my head I kept thinking, but if he has a low count or something this is probably not going to work! (And it didn't!)

I do keep reading in the success stories that less seems to be more though, so I'm wondering about that...

On another note, I'm actually really surprised your directions say to wait 24 hours to BD after the positive. My doc (the one I actually really liked but left) said as soon as it turns positive go for it because you want the swimmers to be lying in wait for the egg to pop out. I've also read (although I know some test multiple times a day) that if you are testing once a day, you don't actually know when it turned positive, so say you're taking them at 2 in the afternoon. I whole 24 hours has passed since the last test and what if your surge actually started at like 6 the previous night, but you don't know until 2 the next day. So then if you waited 24 hours more to BD, you could be missing the window!

I know way too much info I'm sure and even more to obsess and worry about, but that is what I obseess and worry about so I just thought I would share the wealth!! LOL Wink

Jayne