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Elizabeth
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Share your journey with other women who are in their 30's and 40's and trying to become a mom for the very first time!

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I fit into this group too! Smile 34 TTC #1... DH and I have been married almost 7 years, and together for 11. TTC now for 19 months. WHEW!

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Me too Smile ! I am 33 (soon to be 34), TTC for #1...DH and I have been married for 5 years (together for 10). TTC for about 9 months (I guess I won't count the first 6 wasted months using sperm killing lube, lol).

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Keiki......I think you can still count those months. I mean chances are some of the sperm survived, just not as many.

I'm 31, DH is 35, we've been married for three years in June and TTC for 22 months. We basically started on our one year anniversary. Funny how it's those of us who are older who have been trying the longest, but I guess that fits with the statistics.

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TTC #1 for 29 months
BFP- August 2009
M/C September 2009
Diagnosed with PCOS December 2009
Started Clomid January 2010
BFP May 2010 -  M/C same month
BFP Christmas Day, 2010- Ephraim James born Sept. 2011
Now TTC #2
M/C in June 2012
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Yeah, I guess we do fit the statistics. In fact when AF comes, this is one of the things that DH reminds me about, "we're not in our 20's", lol Tongue . I think this is part of what makes it more frustrating (age) and more impatient. I will be 34 in June and I keep thinking about the time ticking.

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Hi Ladies!
I'm 34 & DH is 37 We just got married last Aug. so we've been TTC since our wedding night a long 10 months already. I'm also with you that I'm not getting any younger & the clock certainly is ticking. So, have any of you done the necessary testing yet? DH SA, CD 21 test, etc. Looking forward to hearing your thoughts & sharing your journey with you. Smile

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Keiki- I agree with Katie... you can totally count those months...when you're focused on it, it counts!

Hi Janice- Congrats on your marriage!! Smile
Testing.... DH and I had our first round of testing last October (almost a year of TTC at that point)... he had a SA done at that time and it came back slightly abnormal (low motility) but doctor said nothing to be alarmed about unless we go a few more months and are still not pg she wanted to repeat the test. I also had a HSG in February, and it was fine, and the doctor said give it 3 more months (I HATED that advice)... Well, here we are...soooo, DH had another SA done today, and I also did a FSH/estrogen test on Friday (still waiting for results) and will go back for a progesterone test 8 days after +OPK this month. At this point, even finding out something is wrong would be a relief of sorts...

I think it's totally a personal choice as far as when to start testing... for some people, being passive works for them and they can just let nature take its course... not for this girl! hehe. I am too type A, oldest child, OCD, and not getting any younger.. so I do wish we would have begun testing sooner, before I hit the emotional breaking point... which is where I am now. For whatever that's worth!

I've also started acupuncture, energy work, and taking some herbal remedies for infertility..... seriously you know you're TTC when you can spend $70 on vitamins or whatever without blinking an eye but can't afford to put gas in your car (ok, that's exaggerating a little..hehe).

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Hi Janice- DH and I recently had all the test, SA FSH, & progesterone, & HSG. Everything came back normal, which was a relief but also frustrating as to why we are not PG yet. Like Lori said, it is a personal choice, testing and interventions , but for me it has at least given me a little sense of control over something that is out of my control, hope that makes sense. I think that is why DH and I Aldo decided to try Clomid this cycle. Anyway, it is nice to know we are all in the sand boat with our clocks a ticking away!

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Hi Ladies!

Well, I definitely fit this group too. I'll be the Big 4-0 in August. Ugh!
The DH and I have been TTCing for 13 months now. We will be going to our first fertility appt on Wed (nervous!). I agree with some of the other ladies; I wish I started the fertility appts sooner! But, we will take the next steps and see what happens.
Nice to meet you all!

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Hey all!!!
I'm 30 and DH will be turning 33 the end of this month. We have been married for 7 1/2 years, together for almost 10 which is crazy!!! I can't believe we have been married that long!! Smile We are in month #10.
Janice - we have done all the testing, everything has come back peachy keen except I supposedly have a blocked tube. I say supposedly because there has been some conflicting info. Which I have to tell this story because it's kind of crazy and I've talked to no one about it except for my mom. Anyways, we started testing month #8 of trying.

Here's my story that is kind of freaking me out a little (not sure why though). It might get kind of lengthy so I apologize.
I had my hsg and it came back that I have a blocked left tube, but it was showing up blocked right where muscle spasms occur in your tubes.
I had my test on Thursday and the week of the test something just kept telling me to cancel it, that it didn't matter what the result was.
So we get the results and I email my mom the news because I was a mess and couldn't talk. She starts praying like a mad woman and calls me in tears about 30 minutes later saying the test was wrong, that she has a very strong feeling from God that the test is wrong.
Fast forward about a month, month and a half. I was at work (I work at a hospital in L&D) and was talking to my OB/GYN about my recent shingles outbreak and said that if I could get thorugh that painful expericence I could get through labor (not sure though when it actually happens). She begins to tell me that my RE came up to her said my name specifically and that my tubes weren't blocked that he had repeated the test and they were blocked. I looked at her puzzled and said I didn't repeat the hsg, but she was very adamet about him saying they weren't blocked. So didn't think much about it.
Last week I'm doing a c/s with my OB/GYN and we are talking about that I was thinking of going on clomid and seeing if that worked instead of having surgery. Again she brings up the subject of my tubes and says I really don't think your left one is blocked.
It's just really kind of freaky. My mom really thinks that God is sending me a message that I don't need to have surgery that it won't be necessary. I'm starting to believe it as well, I mean really how many more signs do I need to tell me not to do it. I have been praying and trying to hard to turn everything over to Him and I have felt more at peace with things (I still have my moments) but I truly do believe that we will be blessed with a baby.
Sorry this got really long but I just had to share this story. So for right now I will not be having surgery and we will see how things go.

Talk to you all soon!! Smile

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Tonya- wow, what a trip! I don't blame you for thinking that the test was not accurate, and who wants to have an HSG again (not me!). Sounds like too many sources telling you you don't have a blocked tube! Here's to hoping clomid does the trick for the both of us Smile

Sandy- welcome! I know you are nervous about your appt., but hopefully you will leave feeling reassured that you have a plan! Keep us filled in.

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