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So I decided to really focus on the holidays this year. So I had my brother and sister inlaw over to hang out with my Nephew who is 15 and my niece who is 1 years old. I made dinner and then we baked cookies. It was a blast. But also sad because my sister in law was talking how she would love for us to have a baby soon so they can grow up together. I really want that too. My best friend said the same thing on the phone also. It makes me feel preasure I really dont want to feel.

So back to really focusing on the holidays. I am a baker when I stress out. It really helps me relax but my DH says I need to stop or he wont fit into his clothes. LOL, I will just have to start packaging them up and giving them out.

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I know. It's hard when you start thinking about what life would be like with the baby and how good that would be for it happen at such and such a time. Or when other people do that to you. BUT, I really do think that baby begins its journey into the world when he or she is ready and not on our time line because we can't see the whole picture. Your little one will still love and be close to his or her cousins and your friend's baby whether they are a two years apart or three. And who knows what wonderful people you will meet who are on the exact time line as you? Plus, then you can get all kinds of awesome hand me down baby stuff!

I think you're totally doing the right thing by focusing the holidays and baking and long walks with your dogs and such. Stay positive. I don't think people mean it that way, but when they start asking it does make you feel pressured which is the opposite of what you need to conceive. You can't take on their worries. You have to place boundaries on what you will allow inside your head and your heart because then your worry and their worry start to throw a party and it gets out of hand.

But I totally understand because I feel that way at least 60% of the time someone asks me if I'm pregnant yet even if they are being nice about it. It's like a moment of being really tense because it touches on such a sore subject. I don't think that anyone knows the depth of emotion that women feel who very much yearn for a child but have yet to conceive, unless you are a woman who had to wait to conceive. Men don't get it exactly and women who get pregnant quickly don't get it. It's a very, very deep and instinctual yearning. It's one of the most poignant things I have ever felt. Keep talking to people who will offer you patience and faith in this process.

I've been thinking about my situation and how much I trust my body and I trust that this baby will come when it is time and not when I THINK it is time. There will be wonderful things about him or her coming when they are ready, and I most likely can't see all of those things but nonetheless those wonderful things will be there. For me, I've had to let go of the anxiety about my daughter being so far apart in age from her sibling. I wanted us to conceive right away when she was four, right about to turn five, because I didn't want them to be any farther apart than they already are. BUT, clearly that is something I will have to accept and there will be great things about their age difference that I have not even thought of. Plus, I think that there are all kinds of wonderful ways to have a family and not just one right way to space out your children. Heck, maybe we'll have to have a third Wink

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Oh, and another positive I have in my corner is my weight. When we first started trying to have baby number two, I was about 10 pounds underweight...too lean to be in optimum baby making mode. In fact, I was 10+ pounds less than what I weighed when I conceived my daughter. SO, I am happy to report that I am back on target and this will only help me and my body to find hormonal balance for a second child Smile Good things are afoot, my TTC friend.

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Congrats on the weight, its awesome to meet a goal. Smile

And Just to let you know that there is six years between me and my brother I am older. And we have an amazing relationship. When he was born I was old enough to really enjoy it, he was like my baby. Now hes 24 and I am still way protective of him. But when I have a problem I talk to him. He is actually one of the people who i have talked about ttc. He just says it will happen when it happens.

So it shows you no matter how many years are between kids they grow up with an amazing bond if you raise them too.

I am feeling better this morning. I think i was a little ticked last night because my SIL made everyone in the family think that she got of BC and just bam she was preggo. But My BIL slipped to my husband his brother that they had been trying for the longest time and it was really hard to get there because she never wanted to BD.

So when she said that last night I wanted to say to her, that she should know how I feel since she was there too, but I am not suppose to know that info, so I couldn't.

She tends to make things competive between us. I just have to let it go. : )

On a high point my neice is adorable. She just turned one and she never stops. Like the energizer bunny she runs all over the place, and it made me so happy to see her in love with all of our Xmas decor. I go all out for Xmas, I do garland down my staircases with light. I also have a huge tree and we decorate gingerbread homes and everything.

I think this month is a good month to not dwell on ttc because I am so involved with baking and all sorts of parties. I just have to stop looking up different things on the internet, and let it go.

I love that I have you to talk to now. Its really good to have someone that understands how I feel. Have a wonderful day Big smile

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Ah, I see. Good for you for keeping a level-headed perspective. It is very common for it to take a little while for the body to come back into hormonal balance after getting off the pill, even if you won't admit it. Wink

I am feeling so much better with someone to talk to as well. Big smile

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How was your weekend? Did you do anything holidayish. We went and looked at this amazing home with Christmas light show. I helped keep my mind off of things. This week is going to be so busy.

I am really excited my Dh adam has thursday of this week all the way to the new year off of work. So he will be stress free and here from be the whole time I will hopefully be Oing. Wink

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I had a great weekend but the great thing about it was not having to do anything too much in particular and just have some down time with my family.

This week will be a bit busier for me as well. My hubbie, Scott, has the same time off. Since, I'm only a day behind you in my cycle, this should be fertile time for me too Smile

We have his urology appointment on Wed at 3:00 and I'm hoping we don't have to wait long for the results. As long as something is swimming, even if it's low, then I'll be fine. My nutritionist can help us with sperm count IF it's low but I'm staying positive and think it will be good news.

I just feel like big changes are coming and pregnancy might be one of them.

This should be a very happy xmas for the both of us regardless of the outcome. Intimate time with a loving husband is always awesome.

I will keep you posted on the outcome of Scott's appointment. Keep fingers crossed Smile

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I am crossing my fingers for you.

I feel the same way big things are coming. Big smile

I am excited because we will be doing the 2WW at the same time so we can talk each other out of stressing lol.

It was tought last month because I couldnt tell anyone I was late. We decided not to tell anyone if it happens until after the 3 month mark. That includes his mom, since she cant keep a secret to save her life. We might tell my mom but she can keep a secret.

But I am happy to be able to talk to someone once it does happen. Big smile Thank you for being such a great buddy. If you lived near by I would bring some cookies for you since I have a house full of them. LOL

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Welcome to your newest buddy.... ccs_88!

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Big smile Welcome to our group, as small as it is. We love it.

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