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Lovemybabies
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Hi ladies! So is anyone battling this issue or having a hard time leaving their little ones to be a working Mom? Here is my situation....I am both. I work from home and I keep Lillian at home with me too. I work full-time and I'm not supposed to have her at home with me so I had to lie to my employer about my childcare situation and it's very stressful at sometimes. I found out 3 days before I was supposed to return to work that she was not allowed to stay home with me. They really have no way of knowing if I'm telling the truth other than if they were to call me and heard her in the background or something. So I worked for this company while DH was in school and then when we moved I had the opportunity to work from home. DH and I had always planned for me to be a stay-at-home Mom but when I had this opportuntiy I figured I would keep my job until it was just too difficult or I would go part-time to help ease the stress. Well I found out that I cannot go part-time working from home so that really screwed up my plans. Keeping Lillian at home with me has been okay so far. We have some really stressful days every now and then when she is fussy or wants my attention but I just know it's only going to get worse when she starts crawling and especially walking. Now my husband is saying we can't afford for me to quit working and we have this never ending argument about it. Besides losing my income I would lose my wonderful insurance. He checked to see how much it would be to add me to his and it would be and extra $10K/year. Sooooooo I'm really having a hard time dealing with having to bring Lillian to daycare especially since I would drop her off and then come back to my house. I know it is not the end of the world for her to go to daycare and I am not knocking any of you that have your child in daycare I'm just really having a hard time with it since that was not the plan and now DH is changing it up. He just doesn't understand. It would make things a lot tighter financially for me to stop working but it's a sacrifice I'm willing to make. I just wish I could work part-time because that would be perfect to fill in my down time when Lillian is napping or content playing by herself. Anybody feel the same way or had to deal with a similar situation with DH? Does anybody have an insurance plan on their own and can give me a ballpark as to what I would be looking at if I quit working and had to buy my own plan? Does anyone have ideas for working from home part-time???? I'm willing to quit my job if I could find some other way to make income. I guess as of right now we're looking at putting her in daycare until we have baby #2 so that I can keep my income and insurance. Once we have baby #2 it really wouldn't be worth it for me to work and pay for 2 daycares. I planned to put Lillian in Mother's Day out at a year so she can socialize but I don't think that would be enough to relieve me when she becomes more active. Ahhhh....thanks for letting me vent!!!

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ukmama
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Have you looked into having someone come to your house to watch Lillian while you work and then you would be able to see her when you had some down time.
I nanny for someone who works from home they have 2 children and she is able to see the kids when she doesn't have any calls, it was cheaper for them to hire a nanny than put 2 kids in daycare..

Hope you can figure it out but I'm sure Lillian would do great at daycare it's just hard on you.

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The in-house nanny thing would be good..i was a nanny for a long time but never w/ anyone who worked from home, but did do interviews...I take my DD to daycare and its still very hard during the day not to be with her and shes almost 9 months. I always wanted to be a SAHM...but w/ the bills me and DH still have theres o way...plus he has child support and daycare for his other child...so thats extra out of our pay. I would love to go PT here or wrk from home but i dont see it happing. I hope by the time we wnat #2 which will b another 3-4 years ill be able to stay at home w/ the new baby and take and pick up my DD from school and not have to pay for after school daycares. its a tuff sit. to be n and DH's dont understand the need to be at home with our childern. i hve a couple of friends who are stay at home and i hate them soooooooooooooooooo much!!!! LOL but in the end its the best thing right now and i have to help support my family and i try to put it all in a positive outlook. Big smile

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I know...it is so tough. I have thought about the in home child care but let's say I paid someone $10/hr just for 20 hours a week then I would probably be paying almost double for what I could get if I were taking her full time to day care. Plus I know the daycare is good for them to socialize and learn. I don't have the time to try teaching her things at this point. It's just exhausting!!! Smile

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Emily, why don't you do in-home child care? you could charge someone else $10/hr and get to be with lilly and make some money.

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