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Well, I'm officially obsessed with having a child. So, I will write to get it clear, and also this way, I can look back, and maybe it will give me something. I would love to give to someone else reading this, as so many of others' posts have given to me!

About me; I'm 36 (and a half!) years old. I have no children. I feel like the clock is ticking, rapidly. My man is 39, I feel like he has all the time in the world. I chose the screen name Rabbitbaby b/c I really hope we get a rabbit (chinese astrology) which gives me a few more months of trying.

We started trying March 2010, and I had one pregnancy; tested on 11 dpo on Dec.2, and got a +, which ended Dec.31/2010.

We've done everything to investigate, blood tests, hsg, sperm analysis. I have regular cycles, my tubes are open and the eggs come down, but he tested low. 8 million, when low is considered under 20, and average of 40. Granted, that sample was small, and he was nervous and spilled some, so the OB said we really needed a second sample to confirm. But really, 8 million sperm per millimeter? I only need one!

The month we conceived, we used preseed for the first time, and I really think that helped. I don't have EWCM, never seen it since trying. I think it's probably b/c I'm high stress, drink too much tea, and maybe b/c I'm a vegetarian who doesn't balance her diet too much. Also, he didn't ejaculate for 2 weeks prior, so maybe his count was higher? But maybe those sperm were rejects, since the pregnancy didn't work.

Since the loss, I've had one cycle, we bd'd on the day of my surge and the day after, with preseed, but no luck, af showed on Feb.2. Now I'm 9dpo, and obsessing about when and how and how much and what it will take to make the sperm get to the egg.

I really want it too much, wish I could relax. I have him saving it up (for one week) until +opk day, then we will do it then and the day after. If it doesn't work this cycle, we may not be able to try in March, b/c we are away with a group to a ski cabin in the back country!! No place to do it! I've joked that we will have to build a snow cave, aka sex cave, to have some privacy Smile

Yes, I should relax, maybe try acupuncture, follow the fertility diet and drink fertile tea, but I know how many crack addicts conceive, and I just don't believe it! I work in maternity, I see the sickest, most unhealthy people have babies! I think it's just chance for me. I don't have PCOS, or irreg cycles; I eat pretty well, and I exercise, but not too much.

I know it will happen, I just want it to happen sooner than later. The month leading up to testing is torture, and it consumes my every waking moment.

Hoping that this month is the month. Stay tuned...

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CD 10. Could this month go any slower???

I was going over last year's calendar to find out when I had my surge usually. It seems that I surged anywhere from day 12 to day 16. I really hope it's day 12 this month. I know that the luteal phase never changes: I always get AF 16 days after an LH surge, which makes my LP 14 days. I just wish the follicular phase was more predictable! On average though, it's mostly on day 13. That means Valentines day would be my surge day. I hope that honey has energy for some bd'ing that night. I kind of want to see if we can save his guys for the morning after the LH surge, but I'm also afraid of missing the window. So I think the night time would be best. Only thing, he's not much of a night guy Sad Sometimes I think even if a gun was pointed at his head, he wouldn't be able to do it at night. I'll make sure he gets a nap in the afternoon, maybe a massage... Smile

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Not sure if you're open to having comments on your blog, but I just wanted to stop by and wish you luck!

I wouldn't recommend having DH hold the swimmers in for a full week. It doesn't take long for him to replenish his stock!If I were in your shoes right now I'd start BD today as his swimmers can live a few days once they are in you! BDing today or tomorrow will give a few soldiers the chance to make the journey up to the ovary before the egg is even released. I'd say start now and go every second day and then every day for a few days starting the day of your surge. At least you'll have covered all your bases!

Just my opinion ~ whatever you decide, happy DB and I'll see you in the TTW soon! I am on 4DPO so I should still be there when you join!

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Comments are welcome!

Every 2 days is probably a good way to go about it, but I worry about his count being so low. But you're right, they do replenish. Hmm.. Maybe tomorrow then, and then I'll surge 2 days later, I predict, so that night too. We'll see. He's not often in the mood.

Thanks for the advice, tmb0047, and I hope to see you get a bfp in the tww in about .... 6-7 days? GL!!!!

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Hi rabbitbaby!

Happy bding this weekend!
Sorry about your miscarriage. I know there's no comforting words.

I know I just do it... A lot when I think I might be oing! Fortunately my dh is ALWAYS up for it. Sicko. So just force him to get it on.

Do you take a prenatal or any vitamins?

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Yes, we were up for it this afternoon Smile But now we will wait for surge day, and then why not the next day too Wink

I have been taking folic acid every day for a year, and I take liquid Iron supplements, but I can't take those big horse pills that are multivits. Otherwise, I think chocolate covers all the other basics, like calcium, right? Ha ha!

Hope you get a baby soon too, MattsWife! Nice to have the support of everyone here, it's a good thing.

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CD 11. The opk's are still neg, just a faint line. Good, it's gearing up. I'm in the race for this month Smile

Still trying to figure out when it's best to bd. I've been reading everything out there. I think we will bd the night of the + opk, which will hopefully be about 3 days of saved up swimmers, and then we'll bd the next day, I hope. I'm always relaxed after I know I've ov'd, because then there's no pressure on when to have sex. We can do or not do, it doesn't matter anymore, for a whole month!

Come on 11/11/11~

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CD 12. The time is coming! I've already been talking with honey about the following months, not getting our hopes up too much for this cycle. In March we'll be in the mountains, we've discussed how we'll get around the other 10 people in the small cabin in order to get the deed done! There is an outside sauna, so maybe after everyone's retired for the evening... I'm even going to bring my opk's to the cabin with me, so we can time it.

I will test around 1-2 pm today, trying to do it the same time every day. I have a feeling it will be neg, and then perhaps tomorrow it will be +

I never get EWCM. They say you get it before ov., so technically I should be getting it around now. I wonder why I don't? I'm glad we have preseed.

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Much darker opk today, but not quite a positive. This has me feeling like tomorrow it will be positive, and then we can bd tomorrow night, which is perfect timing, b/c it's Valentine's day. And his swimmers should be in good supply since he's abstained for 3 days as of tomorrow. Also, I have to go to work the next day, 12 hr shift, so we probably wont get to do it then. But I will still try and get him in the mood when I get home from work for one more go!!

I don't do BBT, b/c I never sleep well, I'm up at all different hours, and I can't remember most of the time when I've tried. I guess I'll just assume that ov is the day after the surge. So 1dpo will start on the 16th, and testing will begin on the 25th Smile I can't wait until the 25th! So excited. We should know for sure if I'm pg by the 27th. And, I'm going to birthfest with a friend who got pregnant the same time as me, (but I had a m/c and she is now 15 + weeks) on the 26th. It would be so poetic to find out I'm pregnant on the 26th. Come on world, be poetic, for Valentine's day, for me Love

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CD 13. Hoping to have a surge this afternoon. Still too early to test. Anyway, honey isn't feeling well, we are off to see the doctor at noon. I hope he is up for BD later today. He mentioned it, so I hope he's up for it. No EWCM, yet again. Will be relying on preseed.

I was also reading that it's not good to store up sperm in guys with low sc, because they get all warped. And quality is better than quantity, apparently Wink So I hope the 3 day wait wasn't too long. I don't think so, but in the future, we'll just do it a lot over the fertile time, and forget about the quantity of his guys.

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SURGE!!! Yes, beautiful dark surge. It's a positive on something! However, honey might need emergency surgery today on his eye; we've been at the hospital all day, I've just come home to 'move the car', however, it may be just fine and all he needs is a p/u with some drops.

Please, let him be healthy and be able to DO IT!

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