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Kiwi, I don't know if you're one of those people who would rather know, even if it means it's a chemical pregnancy, but if you're really that late it's highly possible that you could be pregnant. The more I've learned in the last few years about chemicals the more I truly believe they're more common than we realize. I hope you're just pregnant and not having a chemical, but if you want to know it might be worth having a blood test just to confirm one way or another. With my first pregnancy I never tested positive on a single HPT. But I'm truly glad I found out I was pg, even if it ended... of course some people would just rather not know, and that's OK too!

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I would have wondered that pre-baby but my cycle is really wonky now (well this is only the 4th since birth) so have been 31 days then 18 so I am assuming it is most likely just my hormones sucking! However I am thinking I might test tomorrow just to see. I have no pregnancy symptoms, other than ones I have invented LOL

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Did you test??
Definitely possible that your hormones are just getting back to normal...I really don't have a clue about that, how long it "typically" takes (or even if there is a typically!). But hoping the lack of AF is a good sign!! Smile

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Ok you heard it hear first folks - I am NOT pregnant. AF arrived at about the same time as DH turned up at lunch time with some tests.

Of course I am bummed out, but honestly I really didn't think it would happen straight away this time given how long it took last time - still have to have hope though I guess. (at the moment I think hope is dumb lol)

Meanwhile I am trying to find positives.... Hmm, I guess at least I still know my body well enough to know when I am not pregnant and I am also glad I didn't start testing forever ago cos sheesh we would have had to take out a mortgage with the amount I would have tested - am never happy with once a day.
Another positive is that I now have two tests squirrled away in my bathroom cupboard hehe.

So moving forward I guess I had better break out the thermometer and see if it works with my crappy sleep patterns. Also will have to just DTD every second day because with this F'd up cycle who the heck knows when O might happen.

Meanwhile I am off to take some painkillers for this headache now that I can!

Also wondering when I am going to enter my usual spiral of despair? I think I might research post baby cycles and find out how long my body is going to be up the shit for (oh what naughty language)
I will be having a wine with my dinner I think.

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i hate AF. she is an evil vile yiotch. let me know what info you find on post baby regulating. ive seen quite a few ladies ask about it. and i know i have no clue. lolol.

next month will be it for all of us!

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Right the consesus seems to be that having a baby fks up your cycle for an unknown amount of time and it just depends on your hormones as to IF it goes back to normal - boo!

I have an aquantance who had a baby last march and then got pregnant again within a couple of months, so she is due to pop any moment with her second child so she will have two babies under 1! So probably not going to be easy however all she has been complaining about lately is that she has had to miss two summers of drinking - sheesh lady some of us would kill to not be able to drink!

Meanwhile I feel like we have been TTC forever already and it is only month 2, I can feel the hopelessness setting in already - eek! Am going to buy a new thermometer today for valentines day haha! Supposed I had better put out as well.

Heard from the real estate agent last night and he is hopeful that we will get an offer today, only issue is that the first offer is always a pisstake and I just KNOW that DH is going to want to accept it just to get rid of the house, whatever I can't be bothere with the whole situation anymore, will just have to accept that we won't be able to afford such a nice house here since we will be losing about 30k (without, agents fees and lawyers fees etc so more like 50k in the end arghhhhh)

I have seen a house close to our new poor people range which is quite cool though, however it is older so really it is all about how energy efficient it is because power is so bloody expensive and I don't want to be paying $400 a month to keep my poor baby warm in the winter!

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i hope the first offer is not shitty. im the type who would hold out, my hubby is the type who would sell it just to get rid of the house.

i hear you on not wanting to go with an older house. but new houses can be just a crappy energy wise. take mine for example. its was built in 2007. but it was built during construction boom using cheapest products possible. while the walls are insulated and my appliances are energy efficient, my windows and patio door are shit. i can feel the drafts coming in, esp thru my stupid sliding glass patio door. i dont have the 10k to replace all the windows.

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Oh there is nothing worse than a draft! We lived in a rental eons ago and you could feel the wind coming up through the floorboards. Torture!

Today we went to a parade for art deco weekend, longest bloody parade EVER. However, I was being a bit nosey and listening in to a couple of ladies in front of me talking. One of them was saying how hard she was finding trying to get pregnant and oh man did her friend say every single thing you SHOULD NEVER say to someone TTC! She started with 'you can have my kids they were both accidents and I never wanted them anyway' even better she was in earshot of the poor kids! Then she said 'kist stop trying so hard and it will happen' I nearly punched her myself. Then she started naming all the people they both knew who got pregnant either accidentally or on the first try and let me tell you they have some very fertile friends! The poor woman I just wanted to hug her.
My husband has a theory that the worse parent material you are the easier it is to get pregnant; this explains teenagers, drug addicts and people who don't even want kids. I know it isn't logical but I quite like that thought!
Meanwhile mid march we move out of this place and in with the inlaws pretty much means we will have a good few weeks of no mortgage or rent payments to make yay. However, it means living with the inlaws! DH thinks it is a greeat idea, BUT he is at work from 7am to 6pm I am the one at home with his retired step dad and the stupid dog and will have to entertain the baby in a very un child friendly house. Our house better bloody sell before then. If it isn't sold by the time we move out I will be getting new tennants really fricken fast! Then we can rent a new place in town until the house sells. The whole thing is sooo annoying because I just know that I will never get pregnant being this stressed and of course I am an emotional eater so now I am stressed and fat booo.
Umm ok I will stop wallowing in self pity now! Clearly we are lucky to have what we have and of course life needs it's challenges but can I just postpone the challenges for some other time?

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kiwi- i will b stressed and fat with you. i have decided today, after getting AF, that the entire box of girl scout samoa cookies must be eaten asap.

i rly hope your house sells or you get a tennant. i would not want to live with my inlaws.

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Oh I wonder if your girl scout cookies are like girl guide biscuits - tooooo nice to give up after just one.
Sorry about AF Sad

I also don't want to live with the inlaws we lived with them for about a month while we were finding a place when we first moved here and it did my head in. And even worse his step dad has now retired so is home all the time. Arghhhh. So basically we have a month to get the house sold. If not I will go stay with my mum for a while. Kinda hard to make babies when we will be 4 hours away from DH!