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Kitterp
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Am so nervous. I am interpreting every little thing as a bad sign. I need to just relax and enjoy this.

Called the doctor today to schedule first check up at 9 weeks and to my surprise my doctor told me I had to stop breastfeeding my baby girl. I cried. She is only 8 months and her pediatrician is the one who helped me to figure out how to get pregnant while breastfeeding. She encouraged me. I am so confused. Everything I read says that breastfeeding and being pregnant is fine as long as you get enough calories. I think I might have to break up with my doctor as this is the third time their office was not in line with what I wanted or believed.

I am confused and nervous. Can't wait until the 9 week appointment shows a little beating heart and then I will try to rest easy.

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Lost the baby today. Have not been this sad in a long time. I pray for our family and am thankful for my little baby girl Audrey and my husband Jason tonight.

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I'm so sorry for your loss Sad

I don't think breastfeeding has anything to do with it, it was probably just an abnormal pregnancy that took care of itself. It's great that you got pregnant, and you will get pregnant again.

Take care of yourself and definitely keep seeking those second, third, etc. opinions.

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oh Kitterp I am so sorry. Miscarriage is so terrible. My heart goes out to you. Sending you prayers for strength and peace at this time.
I agree with Rabbit, that miscarrying is probably not due to BF. But I do wonder if something is going on since you've now had 3 (correct?). I hope you find a doctor who is supportive. Also, you should be able to see baby's heart a lot earlier than 9 weeks, so next time insist on that!
If you want to talk more there is a miscarriage thread on this forum under the "support" topic... hugs to you.

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Rabbit and Butterfly.....It is amazing to me how the two of you have been through so much and yet are the first to offer support to everyone else. Speaks to character I think. I thank you. I appreciate your support and thoughts.

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Oh Kitterp I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how frustrated, sad and disappointed you are feeling right now. Sad I hope that you will be able to get answers soon about why you keep miscarrying.

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So I am coming around. Had a follow up appointment with the doctor yesterday and it went well. He said that the MC had nothing to do with the breastfeeding in any way. He also said that the last two cycles were technically Chemical Pregnancies and that there is noting to worry about. He said that sometimes with breastfeeding and such a short time after another pregnancy the woman's luetal phase struggle with the proper hormones to maintain a new pregnancy. He said most women don't realize they had an issue because they are not actively trying so soon or they are not testing and finding out about the Chemical pregnancies.

He was very warm and helpful which reinstates my belief in this practice. He said that this miscarriage was unfortunate but that each month will be better in terms of the regulating hormones after Audrey's birth and that if I skip a month and try again we should be fine.

After the exam he told me that my body heals VERY quickly and that this is a great sign. He then cleared something else up for me which rocked. Since Audrey's birth I have had the worst back cramps with my period ever! He said hat my uterus is a bit tilted to the back (obviously not a problem for husbands sperm) and that I should have back cramps with my periods. I thought I was going nuts.

So am still working out feelings of sadness and disappointment about what happened but am hopfully nad my sadness is not being served up with a side of guilt anymore after that appointment. Life is too short for that!

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Chemical pregnancies are so so common...knowing that doesn't make them any less painful and disappointing, but try to take comfort in the fact that most women who have had them will go on to conceive again and carry to full term. I know my doc said we didn't even have to wait a cycle to try again, that it's perfectly fine to try the cycle after a chemical!
You did suffer a loss though and it's ok to take the time you need to process (or not, if you feel like moving on that is OK too!). It sucks...period. You will get through it though. I'm so glad you're doing better and that he helped you!

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Thanks Butterfly. He said that two months ago was chemical and this month was an actual Miscarriage and said it was a bad idea to try again this month as the lining needed sometime to replenish. I get it. I want the Holidays for me and husband and baby girl anyway!

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I am ovulating today and finding it near impossible to not try and convince husband to go for it anyway. Against doc's recommendations. I won't but patience sucks!!!!!

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