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Hey Ho Everyone - Welcome Julie,

I read about the soft cup thing too. Apparently you can also use the DivaCup to the same purpose. I tried this the last two months with no success, although I have to say (so sorry if this is TMI) it does make things a little less messy when you are going bed. I think we will keep trying it, but I guess we will see.

I just finished AF and I can already feel cramps beginning. They will be in full swing next week when I go to the doctor. Maybe he can test for some overabunance or lack of hormone that is causing them. Or I am just lucky and this is what I get. Smile Whatever. Last month I had my LH surge CD18 and 19. My husband will be returning from business this month after being gone CD16,17,18 and coming back the night of the 19th. I hope we can catch this one.

Julie: so sorry to hear about your losses. That is pretty awful. I hope only good things for you. I hope that you are PG and that this one sticks.

Mamaellable: I don't know if I could wait till saturday. If you do, get the digital one. Don't screw around with loose ends. Get the definitive answer. I have my fingers crossed for you! Sounded like implantation bleeding to me!

Meg: I want to come to the party. Save me a seat. Maybe some fancy decorated cake? As for Thanksgiving, we already had that up here (was so good), what you need to do is make some special dinner for yourself, or dress up and go out (yes even by yourself - take a romance novel). Make it a good day and take your mind of being alone. Go to a good movie. I see that Harry Potter is coming out this week... Smile

CML: friends of ours were 2 months pregnant when they got married. I was selfish, i wanted champangne! Smile Babies are always wonderful.

MrsBerrocal: Husbands are tricky. I think we all know this. Mine is still on some other planet about getting pregnant. We opened the gates and now all I think about is babies.
Babies are really portable and are way more portable when they are small and newborns sleep a lot. In our classes, that little one I was telling you about, didn't even make a peep. Slept like a log through everything. When they are little and not walking you can take them with you everywhere. Once they start walking and you have to pay for daycare, it is different.

Talk to you all later!

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Everyone can come to the party! I will have fancy cake and ice cream too! I had to go to the ER lasy night for painsin my abdomen and of course they did a pregnancy test....DR came in and said you are definitely not pregnant. Thanks for the sensitivity, douche. Anyway, I am only like 6-8dpo but maybe he was right and we will just have to try again next month. Needless to say, it wasn't a very good night last night. Sad
And then....my friend who is pregnant called me today and she was all excited because she found out she was having twins. I know she was excited to tell me (I am a twin myself), but she knows I am TTC and I just felt she was a little bit insensitive about it. I mean, I'm excited for her but again last night was rough and today was rough too. Just being bitchy, I guess.

Welcome to our group Julie! I sure hope your baby sticks this time! I'm sorry for all the loss that you have had to endure.
Please keep us updated!

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goldfinch I love it! haha My husband is allergic to alcohol, so that wasn't a big deal for us!!!
But I don't blame you, champagne is pretty yummy.

There is so much stuff out there to read I'm finding it hard to figure out what are the best things to do. It seems like you could spend a fortune on getting pregnant stuff. Diva Cups, Ovulation Strips, Pre Seed Lube. The one ovulation monitor intrigues me, has anymore else looked into it or known anyone to use it??? It seems better than strips but it's like $200.. I'mnot sure I'min far enough yet I want to send that money... yet.... My husband is 10 years older than me, I've been reading about low sperm count stuff, not because we know he does, but just to because we want to cover all our bases. They say something about during ovulation week, leading up to it, that you shouldn't do it everyday you should do it like everyother day so that things can build up again. It's really hard knowing what to do. are we cutting our chances in half by not doing it everyday?? This is our week to try try try. So I'm crossing my fingers we are going to make it happen this month.

Julie I'm sorry to hear about all your misfortunes, I really hope that you have a turn of good luck :)I'm not sure i'd be able to keep trying, so you must be a very strong women! I really envy that!

Meg - That sounds like a pretty crummy night. SOrry to hear that! people are just insensitive!
Sometimes people just don't think about how their words will hurt other people. I work in an office with alot of girls who all they talked about was weddings an getting married because they are/were getting married. Now that one of them is married all she ever does is talk about babies, you can tell she wants a baby so bad but she maintains she isn't trying right now, because she hasn't gone on a honeymoon yet. They all talk like they know about having babies, and trying and everything and raising kids. It makes me laugh because she just has no clue and I can't wait until she finds out what it's really like. Most days it's pretty hard to listen to her because she is always running her mouth off about it, not knowing anything about half the other people in the office who might be wanting to have kids. blah. I really don't like her. hahaha.

Anyway i think i'm rambling now. So i'm going to go plan plan plan Smile

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Goldfinch - I've heard good things about using the soft cups. I'm sorry that you have such horrible cramps every month. That has got to suck! Definitely try to get BDing on the 19th, maybe you'll get lucky and catch that egg! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you

Meg - 6 to 8 days past ovulation is still quite early for him to be so definite that you're not pregnant. You have every right to be bitchy if you feel the urge! Sorry to hear your friend was insensitive with her news. It's always hard to be happy for other when AF keeps coming.

CML - I don't know about the "not doing it every day" during your ovulation week. I jump my hubbies bones for at the least 4 days before I'm expecting it and 2 - 3 days after, just to be sure! I don't think it hurts at all to try every day. You could spend a fortune buying all the "baby making items" I guess it all just depends on what you can afford to spend on all that stuff. Some people can afford more then others, but that doesn't necessarily mean they will have better odds.

As for me - I had a bunch of blood work done on the 10th of November and all of the results were in. Everything was good except for one thing, my ANA. I have Antiphospholipid Syndrome (say that 3 times fast) and basically my body attacks the little bean. So, in a way that bad news was good as at least now I have some kind of answer as to why I've had 3 miscarriages. Even though it was bad news, it kind of relaxed me a bit because it's a answer. On the other side of things, I AM pregnant again. I had Prometrium at home already and started taking it yesterday after I got a positive home test. My doctor told me to take an adult aspirin every day as well because apparently that's what they do with persons with APS. He also mentioned that there were some other treatments coming onto the market, which could be an option, but he's not a specialist he's a DO so I think he's a little leery to jump into all of that. The closest specialist is 500 miles away round trip and that trip wont be able to happen for quite some time so I'm crossing my fingers that the aspirin will be enough!

I'm keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers and spreading baby dust all over you all!!!

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Julie, that is intense! I've never heard of that before... congrats on the pregnancy and I really hope it works out this time! Thanks for the baby dust! Smile

Meg, what kind of pains were you feeling? I agree with Julie - you shouldn't read too much into a pregnancy test that soon. Keep the hope up! I hope you're feeling better, too! (Also, really sorry about your insensitive friend Sad)

Goldfinch, thanks for that. Everyday I feel a little bit more confident, and one of these days I'm really going to ask my husband if we can keep trying past December. I mentioned it this morning, just kind of making a what if statement, and he said NO WAY. I don't get it - I'd be taking the brunt of the work, and if I'm willing to do that, why won't he go along with it?!?!

GOOD LUCK CML!!!! I think you should BD every day, multiple times!! I think DivaCups are relatively inexpensive and worth a shot. You should try it!

AF was supposed to come today but it didn't although I do feel cramps. I haven't even bothered with a preg test because it'd probably be a waste of a good test. (Got a BFN 2 days ago.)

I sure do wish I was pregnant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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CML- Thank you! It was a pretty crummy night and today has been pretty crummy as well. People who run their mouths about something they have no clue about really get on my nerves!! I can soo undrstand why you don't like her. I probably wouldn't either Wink As for the BDing every other day...I have read that men who have TROUBLE with a low sperm count should BD every other day to let the sperm build back up, but if low sperm count isn't an issue that you should BD at least once a day during your fertile week. I hope this helps!

Julie- I thought it was a bit too early as well for him to be so "definite" about it. Of course, I will wait and hopefully AF won't come, but if it does I'm gonna throw my pity party and move on to next month. I'm glad you felt a sort of relief to have a diagnosis, but I'm sorry that they found ANYTHING wrong. *Fingers Crossed* that the aspirin will work b/c you need to hold onto that baby!!!

Ashley- It is a sharp, stabbing pain in my upper right abdomen under my rib cage and its been pretty constant for over a week now. They, of course, didn't find anything in the scans. I am keeping the hope up and thanks for the encouragement!!!

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Where is everyone from? I am from Alabama, but am currently living in Pennsylvania for my husband's job and hoping to get back to Alabama soon!

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I live in Oregon Smile

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Meg - I'm in the north central panhandle of Idaho, basically in the middle of no where!

MrsBerrocal - I'm so sorry your husband has a negative attitude towards continuing TTC past December. Men just don't understand how it is for us. I'm not sure how I would take it if my husband told me "no way." I'd probably ring his neck, haha! J/K- Men can definitely be very insensitive at times, that's for sure. (As mine stands over me and says I don't even know what I'm talking about, haha - He thinks he's SO funny!)

AFM - So far so good on my end. Though, I'm definitely in the range of my last two miscarriages now. I feel SO stressed!! Every time I use the restroom I'm scared and check my paper. Every little pain in my stomach worries me, until I realize it's just gas or something, ha! I keep trying to tell myself "at least we know why the m/c's happened before." I'm anxiously awaiting Monday to roll around to go find out what my quantitive hCG count was and to get another blood draw for another count to be done to make sure the hCG is doubling. I've also been researching APS and found that the treatment for it during pregnancy usually includes subcutaneous heparin AND adult low dose aspirin, so I really want to ask my doctor about that seeing as I'm only taking the adult low dose aspirin. I'm just taking every day at time and hoping this one holds on.

Hoping everyone gets BFP's SOON!!!

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I don't think I am going to be getting my BFP this month Sad I'm having my normal AF symptoms...BOO! AF is suppose to visit on Thursday, so I will let ya'll know when it comes. I have been having issues with sleeping for some reason though. Last night I was having some serious mood swings...mad, then sad (crying in fact), and then just fine a couple hours later. The sleeping issues and the mood swings aren't typical AF symptoms for me, but maybe its because I'm in a funk. I haven't cried as much as I did last night in a while. Who knows? I'm trying my best not to adopt the "I don't care anymore" attitude, but it is really hard. I just want to say forget it to everything (not just TTC). I think I am just depressed because I miss my family and I have noone here to talk too. I just get really lonely sometimes and it doesn't help matters any that AF is on her way. DH and I are going to Hershey, PA on his next set of days off just to spend some time together so hopefully that will help (although AF will still be here...GRRRR!) I feel so incomplete sometimes like something is missing but I can't put my finger on it. Sorry to unload on all of you, it has just been a really hard week. I hope all of you ladies had a great weekend and that ya'll have a great week too Smile