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Goldfinch
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Hello Ladies,

Well I am glad that you others also go into mini depressions. I was in a funk all week this week with the fact that I got my period, was so certain I would be pregnant. It is getting harder and harder to be upbeat and "OK" with BFNs and getting a period. It quite literally blows goats. My husband has been asking all week what is wrong. He knows what is wrong. I am depressed and feel totally crappy and sad. I just find it hard to get happy sometimes.

Tried to do some xmas shopping. Not in the spirit yet. Too many kidlets out there making me feel inadequate.

Mamaellable: Get one of the HPTs that says if you are pregnant or not. Takes the guess work and doubt out of all of that. My friend was like a week late and her first test was negative. Took another one a few days later and it came back positive.

Mrs. Berrocal: Professors get that life happens. Lots of students are parents too. A girl in one of my classes when I was at university was pregnant, had the baby and came right back to school and brought the little one with her. We were all enchanted. And look at the rest of us - trying and trying with no success yet. Might take you awhile. Although on the flip side, if you are wanting to do the student life and party it up and have fun with your other classmates, maybe waiting is the best idea for now. Depends on what you want more I guess.

Meg (I am just going to call you Meg from now on instead of you sounding like a spaceage prisoner Smile - I think you should do something with your free time. Volunteer some time during the week doing whatever (e.g. humane society, food bank, girl guides), just something to take your mind off it. Granted I work full time and I still think about it but it might make you feel less crazy. Either that or take up a hobby of some sort (e.g. sewing, pottery, making penis sculptures out of cheerios, whatever floats your boat.). Maybe take some classes locally.

CML: glad to meet you! I hear you on the funk. Nice of your friend to tell you when to expect the unexpected. Smile

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Goldfinch- I am sooo sorry that you got a BFN this week. You're right it does blow goats. My AF is not expected until the 25th of this month, so I still have some waiting to do. I'm looking into online classes right now. Hahahaha...I like you suggestion of making a penis sculpture. I probably won't take you up on that one but I did get a good laugh from it Big smile
I don't know what I am going to do if I get a BFN this month...probably go into my mini depressions and throw myself a pity party. It makes it even better because my hubby is going to be gone working around that time, plus I am going to be all by myself on Thanksgiving. All of my family is 1100 miles away from us...BOO!

Ashley- I agree with Goldfinch in that the professors will work around your schedule. The only time you would miss that would be different from your summer baby is when you actually have the baby. I'm sure you can bring home assignments, etc. Also, it does take a while to conceive and I would hate if ya'll quit now and start back up next summer the same thing will happen and then there goes 2 years. Ultimately though, it is up to you and your hubby.

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I think you should keep trying to. My husband and I tried to plan so that We would be pregnant but not pregnant enough that I'd show in my wedding dress. haha, I'm such a class act. Everyone tries to avoid being pregnant before their wedding and here were were trying to be! I guess the bottom line is, You just CAN'T plan something like pregnancy. You can try, and oh boy have I been trying to, but you can't plan it. So really, you should just keep trying, and not worry about when the baby is going to be born! The best advice, or thing, my mom ever told me growing up, was babies were never bad news. Which I always loved, because I knew no matter what, if I had a baby when maybe the timing wasn't right, she would always be there for me.
So just remember that, If you get pregnant during the school year, It's not bad news! Thats fantastic news!

The waiting is the hardest part. I'm very impatient, so those few weeks where your waiting to find out if your pregnant, feeling all those feelings which usually are just in my head, drive me crazy. I'm ok for the weeks leading up to ovulation, but after that I'm a crazy person. Last week, when we found out that we hadn't conceived, I went into my funk, did my thing, and I tried signing up for classes, Drawing, Painting baking, ANYTHING. But nothing starts until January because of Christmas. So I've signed up for Cake Decorating Classes to get my out of the house in January. Hopefully Christmas will keep me busy until then. In the meantime, I've been baking and cooking up a storm. Anything to keep busy!

Thats pretty crazy about the predictions! My sister reads tarrot cards, and she did them for my husband and it said we'd have some trouble, but we'd have a baby next year. So I can't decide if that means that we'll conceive next year, or the baby will come next year. Anyway, that pretty neat that your friends aunt told you that!!! I think people know things, I like to believe in stuff like that, I've had some weird experiences and I've heard some really weird experiences from people I trust, so maybe it will happen for you Smile

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You all are right. I can't really expect to try once and hope to get pregnant... but the only problem is that I need to convince my husband. Hmmmmm how to do this... Any ideas? He knows how devastated I am. We talked about trying again in December, and he seems like he's pretty willing. He hasn't made a decision yet, but he seems pretty close. Party

CML, I love that saying that babies are never bad news. It's SO TRUE!! I work at a daycare center part time with newborn to 2 year olds and they are all so precious! I wish so much that I could have one of my own!

Thank you all for your advice Smile You guys are so right!! I am talking to my husband as soon as he gets home from work!

Goldfinch, I'm sorry you had a mini depression episode Sad It's so hard going through this.. I hope you feel better!

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Good for you! I'm sure once you talk to your hubby and explain to him how badly you want it, how long it takes to get pregnant, and really lay it all out for him-then he will get it. Sometimes, it justs takes men a little bit longer to get things-I know my husband has that syndrome. I can talk til I am blue in the face and my husband STILL won't get it. I think they process things way different than we do.

Good luck with your conversation and I hope that everything goes well Glasses

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Welcome to your newest buddy..... JulieS!

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Hi Julie, welcome! Smile

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Hi everyone and thank you MrsBerrocal!

A little about me, my husband and I have been married for about 2.5 years. We have suffered 3 miscarriages. Our first was at 16 weeks, the second and third were between 5 and 6 weeks. The last one was on the 15th of October. After my first 2 miscarriages my next period came 28 days after, like clock work. This time, today, my birthday it has been 32 days since the miscarriage and I haven't been feeling well for the last couple weeks. My husband kept asking if I was pregnant again so after we got home today from going out for a birthday lunch date I decided to take a pregnancy test, since I have a bunch of them from this site. Anyway, to my great shock, seeing as I just miscarried, it came back positive. I'm shocked to have gotten a positive pregnancy test the first month after a miscarriage. Though after looking, it is possible to get pregnant right after one. I certainly DID try to catch the egg though, with the dates I was ovulating before. I don't know if this one will "stick" or not, I hope it does, but my husband and I have not been blessed with a full term pregnancy thus far. There is a chance that it's not a pregnancy and that not everything came out with the miscarriage. I'm going to go by the doctors office tomorrow and see if I can get him to order an ultrasound so we know for sure which it is. I feel bad because I know some of you have not even gotta a bfp yet in your ttc journey. I hope my news doesn't discourage any of you or for that matter make you upset. I am sorry if it does.

Mamaellable - Absolutely the test strips can be wrong. I used them last time and they didn't show positive until 2 days after I had gone to the doctor and gotten a positive blood test. That was CD 34... So don't give up hope until AF comes!!

I will be keeping all of you in my prayers and hoping for BFP's ALL around!!
Julie

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Thank you for your kind words Julie, and welcome! Congrats on your BFP, but I too know how scary it is to get prego after m/c as I have suffered through 2 of them. Good luck, and I will pray that yours sticks Smile

Meg, if you are having a pity party...are we all invited?! lol Smile

I feel like I am lost and out of the loop. I need to get back in it. Goldfinch, sorry about your BFN. I don't want to be too upbeat, because I know how annoying it is to hear "oh it will happen when it's supposed to" "you always have next month" blah blah blah blah, when you have been trying so hard and there is nothing you can do about it. All I will say, is that I am going to pray for you to get your BFP soon Smile

So, I am now 4 days past when AF was due. I am driving myself crazy too. I want to go out and get a real pg test, but at the same time, I don't want to get too disappointed. I think I am going to wait until saturday (a week past AF's due date) and test then. I am just so scared of being let down. Yesterday, before I got in the shower, I used the toilet and when I wiped I saw spots of blood (sorry if it's tmi), and thought, ok now I am going to get my period. But still haven't gotten it. Upon talking to my friend, she said maybe it was implantation bleeding. Possible?
I need your help ladies, please pray that I am in fact pg and get my BFP on Saturday, and please keep sending baby dust my way, as I will do the same for all of you.

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MrsBerrocal- Yes, we DO need to convince your hubby to keep trying. Hopefully you guys will try again in December, and January, and every month after that Smile
I was reading online yesterday some blog post about this thing called the instead Softcup. It was created to catch AF but the bloggers were talking about after BDing they insert the softcup and it helps keep the swimmers close to the cervix so they don't leak out and you have a better chance. I read that atleast 2 women got pg after using it for the first time. It's something to look into and try?
If I don't get my BFP this month, I'm going to think about trying it next time.

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