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Meg41083
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Goldfinch,

I think it is all men who are this way...LOL. They just don't get it. It's hard when the hubby travels. Like you said, we can't say no...it's his job. We really have no choice in the matter. I'm trying to go with the attitude, "If he is home when I ovulate..great if not, there isn't anything I can do about it". It is hard though. I have nothing but time to think about it. My husband and I are in a transition phase right now and we don't necessarily know if we are going to stay where we are (1200 miles away from family) or if his job is going to let him move back home and fly him back and forth for his rotations. That being said, I don't have a job right now until we get everything worked out. So, I have all day and all night to think about it when he is out of town for work. I'm trying my best to stay sane here!

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Hello Ladiees
Im new here. I'm 24, newly married in September, and we have been TTC since July with no luck. I join on the group so I could talk with others who know what I'm going through.
It seems we all have a lot in common, more than just trying to conceive. My Husband has a son from a previous marriage. He once let it slip that they only "tried" once and then they had their son. so after trying for anymore than a month, how could I not be disappointed, that we didn't conceive as quickly. I try to let it get me down. I know it wasn't meant as a hurtful comment, it just came up in conversation. I'm glad there are other people feeling the same way. I can be very hormonal, and some days I feel like i'm going to go crazy, because it can be so consuming.
Look forward to hearing everyones stories and progress.
CML

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Hey girls,

Nice to meet you two, Mamaellable and CML! Sorry I haven't posted in a while.. I went through a depressed phase where I didn't want to do anything but lay in my bed and be depressed. I always said I would be okay with a negative, but now I am not so sure. Before I was saying that I "feel pregnant" since I felt very bloated... That has since gone away and I feel very lost. I even went into a maternity store and the saleswoman asked me how far along I am, and I answered, "uhhhhhhhhh possibly pregnant." I was so embarrassed. I am just feeling so down... and nothing my husband does can cheer me up. I just want a baby so bad, I feel like I'm meant to be a mother. I'm very maternal, even now. It just kills me to know that I have to wait an entire year to conceive if I'm not pregnant this month. (I can't remember if I explained it but we want a summer baby) Sorry for this feel-sorry-for-me-pity-party but I've just lost all hope. Sad

-Ashley

Sidenote, it's also my birthday today.

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I don't think it matters if you think you are ok with a negative, it never is. My husband makes me tell him I'll be ok everytime we take a test, and I never am. I go into a funk for a night, and then usually after a sleep, and some talking I'm ok. But it's hard everytime. You just have to keep reminding yourself that it will happen. It will happen at the right time. We don't always know why it isn't the right time, but I'm sure there are reasons we just need to stay positive even when it's hard. Easier said than done. I hope it all works out for you though Smile A friend of mine randomly told me I was going to have a baby August 18th. I hope she's right hahaha.
Maybe you will too!!

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Thanks CML Smile I'm actually feeling a little better, but you're right - a negative test will never be OK. I can lie to myself all I want, but it won't be true. It makes me feel better that I'm not the only one going through this. I'm so thankful to have you ladies!!!

I took a preg test today, and the line that would indicate that I am pregnant faintly appeared and then went away Sad Maybe because it's evening. First morning pee here I come!

That's funny that your friend told you that - my friends aunt claims that she can feel things happen before they do, and the funny thing is, I believe her. Before my husband and I got married, we had decided to try to conceive, and on the wedding day, she knew all about it! No one else knew except us! There have been a lot of other times where she just knew things that I never told her. Anyway, I talked to her recently and she said she can "feel" that we're going to conceive before this year is over. Naturally I'm a little skeptical just because that's a lot to "feel" but I have a lot of hope. This is my time!!

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Meg41083
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I agree. No matter how much you tell yourself that you will be ok with a negative test, it is never ok. I go into a funk as well for a day or so. Its so hard because I know there is always next month, but what if next month I get a negative test as well? Then I think, well how long am I going to be getting negative tests? It isn't just about that month, its about the possibility of going through it all (the trying, the hoping, the disappointment) for months and months. Like CML, I try to reassure myself that this just isn't the right time and it will happen when it is right. It gets me through some days and other days, not so much.

It is hard when you want something so bad, but your body just doesn't seem to want to cooperate or the timing isn't just right.

Ashley- I sure hope you get your BFP tomorrow morning! Let us know what you get. CML-I hope your prediction is right as well! Laughing out loud

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Thanks, Meg! It's really important to stay positive - I need to remember that!!! Laughing out loud

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Ashley- Happy Belated Birthday! Sorry about your BFN Sad
I don't mean to sound rude, but maybe you aren't meant to have a summer baby this time. I think you should keep trying and not stop. Maybe after your first child, the next one will be a summer baby. I know what it is like to want a baby so bad and not be able to have it, as I have been ttc for 2 years.

I need your help ladies! I am on CD 30 and am always a never late 28 day cycle. I took a pregnancy test strip test on friday with my first morning urine and got a negative, WHAT THE HECK!? My breasts are super sore, and I am beyoooond bloated. Do you think that the pregnancy test strips might not be as acturate as an ept or something? I don't want to be too optimistic, but at the same time, I can't help it.

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Ashley- You're welcome! I definitely think you should keep trying even though you really want a summer baby due to being in school, but what if God (sorry if you aren't religious) has different plans for you and your hubby? Sometimes we think we know what time is best for us, but God might have a different plan. Just a thought Laughing out loud

Mamaelleable-I have gone through this as well...where I could've sworn I as was pregnant...it's hard not to be optimistic. If I were you, I would go and get a First Response pregnancy test or a Clear Blue Digital just as a back up, so you aren't left wondering and you can know for sure! I hope it is positive!

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BFN today Sad I'm thinking it's not going to happen this month... We're considering trying next month too, but I really don't want to have a baby during the school year. I'm sure I could make arrangements with all my professors around test schedules, but my husband is not so confident. He's really not wanting to try any other time.. I guess I should just take what I can get but, I don't know.

Mamaellable: GOOD LUCK!!! You sound preg to me!

Thank you ladies for all your awesome advice. It's so great to come on here and have all of you!

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