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Morning everyone!!

Rain here for 3 days straight.. We need it, but now we have the flooding issue - Not where I live, but around the city and people I know. I don't watch TV anymore, I don't have the time. But, I think this last hurricane is sitting on top of us and that is why we have so much rain.. ( I am next to Austin, Tx).

Dros, I wish you the best of luck for this month.. and if you need the time off, I pray it happens when you least expect it.. But, I understand about needing to take time off because of personal issues.. Our lives are so complicated.. Shock

Velly, many women fear the soft cups.. But, they aren't as bad as they look.. I do love the fact I can get up after BDing and not have to walk around with a washcloth between my legs, or run to the bathroom... Big smile

Sio, I never got a + with the OPK strips. I ended up using the CBE one, with the smiley face. I could never get a line darker than the control line, but there was no mistaking the smiley face. Also, I think it's more important to test the same time each day, not so much with FMU. I tested in the mornings because I just made it part of my morning routine. Each night I would make sure I have a little cup in the bathroom for the urine. But, that is what worked for me - I am not an ondemand pee-er. I know I don't drink enough, so I had to test when I KNEW I had to pee... Laughing out loud

I agree with you, Velly, that when you are praying for just 1 child, there are so many unwanted pg's and how it isn't fair for y'all.. I know how blessed I am for the children I have (and the ones I married in to), but I do wish that those pg's could just happen to those who truly want it, and will take care and love the children, they way they should be.. Y'all are included in my daily prayers..

Amber, where are you? Dawn, your ticker still doesn't show up.. where are you in your cycle?

I have done the same thing, buying only 1 package of tests.. But, then I start thinking again "oh, it's just too early, let me get another pack - there HAS to be something on that strip" .. that's why the dollar store comes in handy now..

The pre-seed is awesome, if used properly. I posted not too long ago that I had a major sticky Tongue
mess with it once.. It is really meant to be used inside you, and not so much on him or it turns yucky. I made sure i had enough in me, and around me that I didn't need to put it on him. We were using it all the time, when I had my dry days, but figured if we didn't "need" a friendly lube, we just used the other stuff. As far as it helping the swimmers actually get there, I don't know yet. I don't know who used it and it helped, there was nothing on the other boards to suggest that was the trick... but, overall, I like it.

Well, ladies.. off for 2 rounds of dropping off kids at school, then Dora or Fresh Beat Band all day..
FX TO EVERYONE TESTING - BOTH FOR PREGGERS AND THE BIG "O"!!!! Big smile

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Good morning everyone, I just enjoyed an hour long walk with a good friend on this rainy morning. I am making it my goal to walk at least 3 x per week to get and keep myself in shape. I have noticed lately that my closet has taken to shrinking my clothes lately. I wish it was because of a PG but NOT Sad(

Mrssheppard, you really crack me up Big smile I completely get what you mean though about walking around with a wash cloth afterwards, I can see how the soft cup works!! I am very grateful for my step-daughter who is 9 yrs old but to have one of my own is something I am longing for. I guess I just feel like I am missing something.

So I am a little confused about my cycle this month because I have never in my entire life had AF last as long as it did this month? It lasted almost 9 days?? Does that mean that my "O" will be at a different time then? Does that mean that my AF will appear later this month? I think I will just have to call this my take it easy month and wait for my OTK strips to show up to be used next month.

Hoping you all have a wonderful day and I will keep my FX for those of you who are testing Party

Vel

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Velly, what really kills me is the movie love making scene.. when the beautiful woman, who's make-up and hair is perfect (yeah right) gets up and walks around to the other side of the bed, leans over and gently kisses the man - WHOA... first, we know that there isn't a stitch of make-up left on (it's usually on the pillowcase or smeared across our faces - second, our hair looks like a rats nest - third, what goes up must come down.... all down our legs... and no one ever complains about the wet spot in the movies, or bad breath, or "honey, that's not it", or "no, my legs can't do that! I am NOT a pretzel!".. gotta love the movies!!

Have a great day!! Laughing out loud Laughing out loud Laughing out loud

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Wow so much going on on this thread the past few days. I tried to stay away so I could get some work done. It sounds like we all have taken some time off of this buddy group. I get really obsessed and start looking things up regardless of how much work I have during the 2ww period. Smile

Shep - I am here Smile Thanks so much for the link, I pretty much had read up on all of the info (I'm constantly researching it) but thanks for thinking of me!
I only take a multi, folic acid, a D3, acidophilus, flax seed and wheat grass. My DR told me to stop taking a few other supplements that I was on. I will say for the record that I am a fan of the preseed and softcups, The preseed is supposed to help get the swimmers where they need to go, even if you don't need it. the softcups were a bit scary at first but they do their job and I love not leaking. HA! I bought the bulk pack of OPK's and PG tests on here. I kept buying small packs at the drugstore and spent so much money, so I said why not. I always PG testing starting on day 7. LOL, so no AF yet for you? I just finished mine up, this next weekend should be O time but we are going to stay with some friends so their won't be much BDing. By the way I have a tendency to write novels on here to LOL!

Dawn- Happy Anniversary! Just to let you know my DH used to say the same thing and I did too, if we couldn't do it naturally it's not meant to be, well that changed big time for us both when I found out I had Endo and would need IVF.

Velly - Your af sounds like mine this last time, and it was not fun! Mine does last for 9 days from time to time but I seem to always O around the same time no matter what, around 8 or 9 days from the 1st AF day. Just count from the 1st heavy day and start testing. Thanks for your kind words. I have had the endo for so long and had a feeling but I had always heard that as long as its not too bad you can still get PG on your own, well that's stage 1 & 2 and I am around a stage 4 so oh well. But really I am excited I can't wait until we have the money saved and can try the IVF! I know how you feel, I just want 1 baby, for now, and everyone around me is getting PG even when they don't want to. Glad you had a nice weekend. I am excited for you to start the acupuncture. I will be starting mine in October, I can't wait. It really is supposed to work miracles in many different ways. By the way I LOVE the pressed, even if you don't need it, it really does help to get the swimmers where they need to go.

Siovahn - I have used the softcups and when I take them out after a few hours they are pretty full and not much comes out after that. I'm not sure but for me I wouldn't bother putting in another one after 12 hours because I don't think there will be many swimmers left, they will either by in the old cup or where they should be making their way to your egg, if you can bd again in between that's best but I know how tough that can be.

Maggy - Thanks for your kind words. I am definitely trying to stay positive, I do feel good knowing at least and it could be worse, at least there is hope when we can finally save up some money. It's always about money isn't it, sheesh. But yes the periods aren't so great, they never have been. i remember my dad walking me around the living room when I was 13 to try and help with my cramps and they just got worse every year, I knew something wasn't right and have been suspecting endo for years. But it sounds like your AF's aren't so great either. Sorry Sad But congrats on the pos OPK! FX for you during your 2ww!

drosgirl - I'll have my FX for you during your 2ww!!!

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Diagnosed with stage 4 Endometriosis in September 2010
3 failed IVF cycles with local clinic
1 failed cycle at CCRM But we got accepted into their new study so we are trying one last time! FX!
2nd cycle w/CCRM. 3 perfect blasts out of the bunch, xferred 1, BFP!!!!
DS Born June 24th! We are truly blessed.

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Oh Yeah and
AFM- Just finished up AF, it was a bad one, I think the worst I've ever had but so glad it's over. ANd I actually had a great weekend and made it to both parties, just had to let a few people know why I had to keep going to the bathroom, it all worked out good. Now Just trying to figure out what I should be doing. I am so used to TTC, plotting & planning everything. Now that I have such a small chance because of the endo, I have to find out if I should just wait until we can afford the IVF and relax in the mean time ( easier said then done) Or continue trying and maybe we'll get lucky. I just talked to my ex a few days ago and found out he and his wife are 5 mos PG, I was happy for them but bummed. He said, we weren't even trying... etc. the usual. By the way I tend to write novels too, I try to break them up but so sorry ladies. ALso I write on a few different threads so some of my entry's may be a bit redundant to some of you Smile

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TTC #1 since 2008
Diagnosed with stage 4 Endometriosis in September 2010
3 failed IVF cycles with local clinic
1 failed cycle at CCRM But we got accepted into their new study so we are trying one last time! FX!
2nd cycle w/CCRM. 3 perfect blasts out of the bunch, xferred 1, BFP!!!!
DS Born June 24th! We are truly blessed.

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Velly I normally have my AF for 9 days but I have had them as long as 20 days. But I always O on day 19 or 20.

Amber have you have the proceeders done for the endo? I had endo about 7 years ago and had a proceeder done then it came back a little bit about 5 years ago but I haven't had much trouble with it since then. I heard right after you get the proceeder done you are very fertile....too bad I wasn't trying then.

Shep I'm on day 15 of a 29 day cycle.....so maybe we will get lucky next week Laughing out loud Wouldn't that be crazy if I got BFP the day I am going to the specialist?

Well I know this is short but I have to go. Baby dust to all Wink

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Amber, I am sorry about AF being so rotten, I know in a round-about way how bad it can be.. I usually have a cyst that ruptures during AF (or around it). And since I can't take ibuprofin or any NSAIDS, tylenol sometimes just doesn't cut it... When DH and I were on vacation (with the kids), we snuck off to the car and acted like HIGH SCHOOLERS!! It was so fun sneaking away, even though I admit we should have taken the Tahoe, because the backseat of the Corolla didn't have much room - good thing we are both technically short!!! It put a little romance into the relationship, erotic because the nervousness of getting caught.... I am saying, while you are away with your friends, excuse yourself and have a little fun.. if you know you should be Oing around that time, if you are not at home watching for the surge and planning BDing, then maybe y'all would be relaxed and it could happen.. wouldn't that be the sh*t??? Big smile
I am sorry about your ex and his wife.. I think there was a part of you that was a little more than "bummed", especially if you were TTCing with him. If you have a decent relationship with your ex, then maybe you aren't really that upset, but I am thinking how I would really feel if that was the situation with me.. I am sorry if I presumed wrong, I just want to let you know if you wanted to say that you were more than bummed (like really jealous but wishing them the best at the same time), you can let it out and be honest here... I have different issues with my ex, but there is a similar feeling of bummedness (new word) and I try to save face around my girls.. Wink

I try to post every day, if not every other day - especially while I am 2WW.. I really want this group to grow together, getting to know each other better and supporting each other until we get our BFPs!!

Dawn, wow - having AF for like 9 days... and sometimes as long as 20.. that is like bleeding 2/3s of the month!! That used to happen to me, when they put me on the pill years ago to help with my cysts - the pill made everything worse (when it's supposed to make things better).. I hated it! I wonder how that is that you still O the same time, but the bleeding is so long.. I admire you for having to go through that! I have heard of that happening to women, that the day they are supposed to either have a procedure done, or go to a specialist, they get their BFP - FX and a little prayer it happens to you!!

I sometimes think that if it doesn't happen naturally, it's not meant to be.. but with so many things I have been through and come across (since I am older than y'all - not meant in any kind of negative way, just that my life is a "lifetime movie") I sometimes think that God gives you tools to make things happen, if they aren't happen naturally.. Example (this has nothing to do with TTCing) I knew of things my ex had done, but didn't do anything about it - I thought if he was meant to get caught, he would.. but then I got to thinking, God might have given me the "evidence" to do something with.. like the story of the man out on the raft, floating out in the ocean miles away from land.. a fishing boat comes along and offers help - he says "no, God will save me".. then a cruise liner comes along and offers help... he says "no, God will save me".. then a navy ship comes along and offers help.. he says "no, God will save me".. the man's boat gets a hole and sinks and the man dies.. he goes to heaven and asks God "why didn't you save me?" God says to him " I sent you help 3 times!" Innocent That is what keeps me going sometimes, that maybe I am supposed to do something with the tools (evidence) that is in front of my face - that I know might help, but just sit and wonder what I should do.. take a chance!!
I wish you the best of luck in the finance department if IVF is what you need to do.. !

Velly, I wish I could get motivated to get in shape.. I am little, but really the only exercise I get is vacuuming the stairs (or running up and down them).. Your ticker says you are on day 14 - have you tried testing for O yet? I am sorry AF lasted so long, how irritating!! FX for testing... Have you tried

Maggy, where have you been? How are you doing?

Sio, I see you have a pretty long cycle.. is it like that every month? Have you tried the soft cups yet? I practiced with them before I "needed" them, to make sure I could get one in and out, without ripping my cervix out because the cup got hung up on it!! Laughing out loud Some days, it's like the golden gate bridge in there - it goes on, and on, and on... never knew how far a va jay jay could be!!
Just curious, you said you were on the island.. where are you?? Where is home? I am sorry about your cousin getting pg before you.. I know how that feels, but it was my sister.. I was happy for her, but at the same time, wishing it was me...

Dros, how are you?? I sure hope you get a BFP this time!! Hate to lose you, but I do understand..
When do you plan on testing? Do you have an early pg tests (like from this site)? I am praying for you too!!

AFM: BFN on dollar store test this am... Sad doesn't look like it's my month...

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Dawn - That's great about your endo. I do wish that was an option for me. Are you referring to the laparoscopy procedure? My RE told me that wasn't an option for me because of where the endometriomas were located and what stage I'm at. I guess it will jeopardize my ovaries and egg production. I have been told that IVF is the same cost and best option for my endo as far as having a baby goes and it is likely that it will put the endo in remission as well. Smile FX for you next week, yay!

Shep - Wow I can't believe your cysts rupture so frequently, that must be so painful! and I dont know what I'd do with my advil. I'm sorry. That's a cute story about you and your dh in the car Smile I think you are right we will try and be sneaky and bd over the weekend, I think I may be good for us to relax about it a bit. As for my ex, really the main thing I was bummed about was just how easy it was for them to get PG when they didn't even want kids yet and weren't trying, really I don't wish that they had it harder like me I jut wish I had it easier like them. I have a great relationship with me ex, h is a real sweetie but we broke up over 8 years ago and it was mutual and neither of us ever looked back, we have been friends ever since, I never TTCd with him as I knew we weren't going to end up together. My DH and I is a whole different story and I am so happy with him and feel so lucky (most of the time Wink ) to have him. Oh I know I don'y have to hold back around you all Smile So sorry about another BFN but you know never give up hope until AF shows up, Ihave heard so many stories about no BFPs until weeks after AF was supposed to show, the tests aren't always sensitive enough.

Hope everyone has a great weekend!!!

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TTC #1 since 2008
Diagnosed with stage 4 Endometriosis in September 2010
3 failed IVF cycles with local clinic
1 failed cycle at CCRM But we got accepted into their new study so we are trying one last time! FX!
2nd cycle w/CCRM. 3 perfect blasts out of the bunch, xferred 1, BFP!!!!
DS Born June 24th! We are truly blessed.

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Amber, I am glad you are friends with your ex. Mine just wishes I would parish. I (everyone) can't figure out why he is so vicious to me. They seem to think it's because he expected me to beg him to stay (when he left me & I was 7 months pg) and I didn't, that he thought I would back off of asking for more child support and he hired the scumbag lawyer to fight me to not only decrease child support but fighting me for custody and I didn't, he expected me to fall on my face (the emotional abuse he inflicted on me and my girls is unbelievable) and I didn't.. He is a narcissistic, misogynistic, no hearted, evil man. I found out about a year after the divorce that he planned it all along (since I kept the baby). He did not want another child AT ALL. So, I do know how precious life is and how deep it is for y'all who don't have children. I know y'all would give anything to have just 1. He doesn't get it, he never, ever will. He makes it appear that he is this awesome dad, but he doesn't understand you can't buy the children. Yes, they want STUFF, but he can't buy their love and one day, the girls will see exactly who he is. Then, the consequences he endures will be completely by his own doing. Til then, I do get upset when my girls say positive things about him - I am the one doing all the work. I have raised them - not him. He never, ever changed a diaper, fed them, bathed them, etc. But he sure tried to make it look like he was this perfect dad when we were going through the custody battle. I know I am not a saint, never will be, but at least I was the one there for the children. period.

Anyway, off my soap box... Wink

Maggy, where are ya? Haven't heard from you.. hope that + on your OPK was right and you caught the egg... make a baby!! Smile

Dros, any news yet? I know you said you were going to leave us if you got a BFN and I was just checking in with ya!!! I wish you luck if you have decided to go... Tired

Sio, I just noticed you have a very long cycle.. If I missed it somewhere, I apologize, but I sure hope AF isn't too long and painful, having such a long cycle and all... Hope to hear from you soon!! Tongue

Dawn, when is your appt for the specialist? When do you think you will test? I do really hope you get your BFP before your appointment!! Shock

AFM: Still getting the BFN. I know there is always a chance until AF arrives, but I just feel it in my bones that it didn't happen.. Sad I know everyone is busy, but I hope to hear from everyone soon, to see how y'all are doing!!! Take care!!

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Shep - I can't believe that about your Ex, I mean I knew he was a loser because og how he left you while you were PG and also that you felt you couldn't even talk to him about TTC or your whole pregnancy, really I'm so sorry you went though all of that but how wonderful that you found your DH! Belive me this last ex is the only one I have such a great relationship with, I am lucky. Anyway you are so right, your girls are smarter than that and one day they will see right though his ways and know that you were the only one who really put out the effort. That's all you can do, you are better than him and better than his games, just smile and look the other ways. Your girls probably know already.
Ok gotta get moving!

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Amber
TTC #1 since 2008
Diagnosed with stage 4 Endometriosis in September 2010
3 failed IVF cycles with local clinic
1 failed cycle at CCRM But we got accepted into their new study so we are trying one last time! FX!
2nd cycle w/CCRM. 3 perfect blasts out of the bunch, xferred 1, BFP!!!!
DS Born June 24th! We are truly blessed.