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Velly
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Hello ladies, thank you for the welcome~it is nice to see a group that seems to feel exactly the same way I do through the whole TTC process. I totally feel how you do Siovahn and amber rose when you hear about someone else being PG!

I am just about to turn 34 and my DH is going to be 32 in October. He had a daughter from a previous relationship but we have been unsuccessful in conceiving one together. We have been TTC for the last 3 years. I have gone through all the testing and in fact the one specialist actually told me that I have beautiful ovaries. LOL Anyways I started to develop headaches about 1 1/2 years ago and they kept getting worse and worse so I started to track when I was getting them and it seems to start around the days I should have been ovulating and would last until my AF. So I figured it had to be hormonal so I went to my DR and she sent me for BW. We found out my prolactin levels were very high so she referred me to a neurologist who sent me for an MRI which then confirmed that I had a tumor on my petuitary gland. They started me on Bromocriptine to shrink the tumor because they figured that was preventing me from getting PG because it was making my body think I was lactating. I went for BW in April and my Dr said my hormone levels were back to normal but she wants me to stay on the meds until I get PG. She is confident it will happen now. It has been 4 months and nothing yet.

My SIL just found out she is PG after trying for 3 years and she told me she used OTK from the internet and I figured I might as well try them too. That is how I discovered this great group!!

So that is a really quick summary of my life but I know I will be sharing more as I get to know you all more too!

I am so looking forward to getting to share this journey with you ladies. It is so refreshing to finally be able to share my thought and feelings with people who REALLY know what I am going through! Every time AF comes I just want to isolate myself and cry. I almost feel like I am not a woman or a good wife because I can't provide a child for my husband! I especially feel that way every time I hear of someone else getting PG. Don't get me wrong, I am very happy for the person but it is my own feelings that flood over!

Again, I am so looking forward to being a part of your success...because we are all going to succeed at some point!

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Velly
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Hi mrssheppard, I am actually on day 4 of my cycle. I don't know how to put a ticker on my profile I tried the other day but it didn't work. Can you explain to me how? I think it is a great idea to track each other, we can cheer each other on and pick each other up!!

I was wondering too because I have read that acupuncture has worked for some people have any of you tried that? I was always hoping things would just happen naturally but notta!!

I hear ya about our minds playing tricks, last month my bb's were so painful my DH couldn't even hug me, I had a huge appetite, felt nausea, extremely tired and low and behold AF appeared instead Crazy

I will agree to that mrssheppard, to companionship, friendship and BFP!!!

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Hi Velly!! Nice to have you join us!! A tumor on the petuitary causing your body to think it was lactating - my goodness! I'm glad they figured that one out as that is something I wouldn't think would be an easy find. So is that all worked out now? You said your hormones were back to normal but is the tumor gone? I sure hope so!!
Since I'm on I'll help you out with the ticker.....
Go to http://lilypie.com/ (or any you wish to use but this is a good one to try out)
Customize your ticker and after it is complete you will be on the page where it has a button labeled "add to my lilypie"....look further down where it says for websites & choose Image URL then look down a bit more and there is a box with the url in it...copy that!!!
Head to your account on here and then the edit option....click on the little landscape picture frame on the top of the signature box (insert/edit image) and paste in the URL you got from Lilypie...click ok & hopefully that works!!

Mrs. Sheppard is the CBE an OPK? Guessing that stands for clear blue easy...I'm still trying to get all the lingo down. Mucinex?!? Awesome! Looked it up cause I didn't know what the heck that would be doing and looks like a great alternative to the FertilaidCM or products like that & much cheaper!! Basically just cleans up the discharge when taken a couple days prior-peak. Too bad I didn't know that one sooner Sad but I guess that's what all this is for! I'm so sorry that your previous marriage/pregnancies were like that but thank god you have moved on and get this chance - how wonderful!!

Amber, I've read up about the softcups & I'm pretty weirded out by the whole thing as well but I will try anything. Are you putting them in after BD or filling them first? I'm just afraid that I will do it wrong and then it will end up inhibiting the process.

Well I just got an email stating my order has shipped so I probably won't get it all in time for this month Sad Hopefully the combo Ovacue and OPK will nail it down (haven't tried them both at the same time).

For anyone who has used Fertilaid (Dawn was the only one that mentioned I think) did it mess up your cycle in the beginning? Like bring AF on too soon? I don't want to start it and then get AF when I'm supposed to be ovulating.

I will definitley be interested in the results for the acupuncture...so definitley let us know if you ladies try it!! Off to make dinner....DH is on duty tonight so just me & the puppy.

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amber rose
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Dawn - I completely know how you feel, my DH is wonderful too but I just can't make him understand completely how I feel, this forum and you ladies are such a huge support, who knows where we'd all be without this. Good for you getting the fertile aid and going all out, I'm going to start acupuncture as well. FX for you!!

Shep - I can't believe that gyno! oh how terrible, I'm so glad you found a 2nd opinion, how uttery awful for a DR to make someone feel so hopeless, he should lose his license. Laparoscopy isn't an option for me #1 because of where the endometruim mass is (too close to my ovary & would likely damage that ovary too much) and #2 because of the cost (I have no insurance so it's all out of pocket for us) is comparable to the cost for IVF and since it won't increase my chances of getting PG with the IVF it's not worth it. For someone with cysts though I have heard otherwise. I have high hopes for you!

I have admiration for all you ladies as well, we are all in the same boat, some of us have it been trying for longer than others but I think we all want it the same.

I have my AF coming within the next few days, I never know for sure because my cycles vary in length from 22 - 26 days & I get spotting for about 5-7 days before my AF comes full force, I am on day 3 of spotting. I had no idea these were symptoms of endo but knew i was out of whack! Anyway I have already tested, I am the worst I'm telling you, and it was a BFN of course. I vowed not to test again until next week. When are you up?

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Amber
TTC #1 since 2008
Diagnosed with stage 4 Endometriosis in September 2010
3 failed IVF cycles with local clinic
1 failed cycle at CCRM But we got accepted into their new study so we are trying one last time! FX!
2nd cycle w/CCRM. 3 perfect blasts out of the bunch, xferred 1, BFP!!!!
DS Born June 24th! We are truly blessed.

amber rose
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Velly - Glad to hear someone has beautiful ovaries I was told my ovaries / eggs were 10 years older than I was ha! That is great though for you, but scary about the tumor, I'm so glad that your hormone levels are normal and you have a great change of getting PG! FX it happens for you soon. I found the forum the same way, I ordered OPKs and PG tests in bulk HA! I know just how you feel, I have the same feelings like I'm less of a woman or I'm broken but I still have confidence it will happen for us, this IS a great group, the support is irreplaceable.

Siovahn - I just put the softcups in after BD, I mean right after - I keep them by my bed & and barely move and slide 1 in. It definitely kept the swimmers in and not out, it was great not "leaking" Smile I never used fertile aid but made my own blend and it shouldn't change your cycle too much, not more than by a couple days each month, it should never be that drastic.

Baby dust to you all!!

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Amber
TTC #1 since 2008
Diagnosed with stage 4 Endometriosis in September 2010
3 failed IVF cycles with local clinic
1 failed cycle at CCRM But we got accepted into their new study so we are trying one last time! FX!
2nd cycle w/CCRM. 3 perfect blasts out of the bunch, xferred 1, BFP!!!!
DS Born June 24th! We are truly blessed.

Velly
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Hi Ladies!~

Thanks Siovann, I think I got it figured out with the ticker...maybe...I can be a bit technically challenged sometimes Big smile

Amber rose, I am very happy to have my hormones back to "normal" but I wont know for sure until I go for another MRI if the tumor is totally gone but my DR figures it is. She is so sure that once I get PG that I will never have to worry about it again because she said that a woman's body will actually correct this problem with a pregnancy...guess I gotta wait and see.

So I have scheduled myself for acupuncture and it is scheduled for the day around when I am supposed to be ovulating which happens to be right around my birthday, that would be the most beautiful gift Smile I am hoping my OTS will be here before then. How long does it normally take for delivery??

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Well first of all I want to introduce myself my name is Maggy and I am 24 years old my boyfriend and I are TTC and he is 28 years old.. I am amaze about all the stories that everyone has it is quite a journey going through this process I am happy to know that there is others like me and would understand me without going uh??? lol..

My boyfriend and I have just started to try, I am now barely 3 month off the pill and i was on it for 5 years I also have had some issues with my reproductive system.. I had a Dermoid Cyst next to my right ovary since I was 16 and at first doctors told me that it was not necessary to get it removed so I didn't , well it turns out when I had my first pap at 19 they found out that it was already 4 inches long and becoming part of my ovary so I had it removed thankfully they did not have to touch my ovary in the process, I also found out that I have a Tipped Uterus, I have being reading all about it the symptoms and side effects that having this has, I know that in very rare cases this causes infertility and these is the part that worries me, I also know that me going off the pill so recently can be a cause why I'm not pregnant yet, I know is only 2 moths that I've tried but believe me I have being wanting this for so long that every time my period comes its just heart breaking, like somebody said I also have friends that are having kids left and right and I'm still here not pregnant and they don't even plan it or anything and it makes me so upset.

I know it takes time that I just started trying but I would like to know what other woman in here think about my case and maybe similar cases I don't know someone that understands me, my boyfriend is always positive and he is supportive but he really doesn't like to worry about this just wants to let it happen, I know he wants it too. But I'm a person that plans everything and wants to know everything in advance to be prepared and this is driving me absolutely crazy inside my head.

I just want to have a baby so bad, please any advice of how to cope with this????

I bought the conception combo from early pregnancy.com I just had my menstrual period and I'm about to start testing for ovulation, hope I have some luck with this. Thank you to all of you for taking the time..

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Best wishes for all of you ladies I know how much you all want it and I feel right at home reading all your previous conversations its is really amazing how some of you have gone through so much and still trying without giving up that really gives me hope...

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Shep I just started my cycle I'm on day 8, so I have 11 to 12 more days until I OV. But this month my AF was strange......I was four days late and then when I got my AF it was very light then after about 4 days it got really really heavy for about 2 hours with lots of cramping (but I cramp really bad anyways) then went back to light. So I called my dr and she was like I think you are just having a normal period. I still feel sick and really tired but I think it's just my mind messing with me. So I asked to go to a specialist, so I'm going on the 21st of this month (a day b4 my AF). Hopefully they can figure something out.

Well I gotta get ready for work. Talk to you girls later!

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Good Morning Ladies!!

Maggy, nice to hear from you. I was on the pill for 8 years (many, many moons ago), off for 2 months and got lucky with my first. M/c'd 2 months after stopping breastfeeding #1. I tried for #2 for 8 months before being successful. Then, after 8 more years of no b/c, I conceived #3 (after another m/c 3 months prior). Pardon the way I say this, but it's a crap shoot on the how and why's of getting pg. I have found no rhyme or reason and that b/c did not play a role in me. DH (who I was not married to when I had my children) firmly believes b/c messes up females systems, possibly forever. I don't want to scare you, I am just sharing 2 sides of the coin. I do wish you the best of luck though!!

Amber, I am glad you know what will not work.. That might help with wondering how many different things to try. Having the cysts were really just a pain (literally). At the time of the dx, I wasn't planning on anymore children, but knew I wanted to keep my options open. You never know what tomorrow will bring and I didn't want the option to not be there, if I was going to have anymore children. What if I get divorced (which I did)? What if something happens to one of my children and I want/need to have another? What meds would I be on for the rest of my life if I did this? etc.. So, I learned to deal with the pain and other than a few ruptured cysts (that landed me in the ER) I dealt with it.. I really am ok, I feel it every month though - usually my right side.. I am allergic to aspirin and ibuprofin and all NSAIDS, so my only option is tylenol. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. But, I would rather take a few days of pain with the option of TTC than not at all.

Velly, I hope acupuncture works for you. I am too afraid of needles to have something like that done.. If conceiving starts to look like I am running out of time, I might consider that. But, for now, I wish you the best of luck!!

Sio, it took a few weeks of research to figure out what the acronyms were.. I was amazed at the lengths women have gone to, to TTC.. I had no idea that some common things (muscinex, soft-cups, etc) were used this way. The CBE is going to be the only ovulation test I use from now on. I used the strips (from Walgreens) and never got the surge. I am so glad I used the CBE or I would have missed my window. I kept all the strips, but never was the line as dark or darker than the control line.. I found them cheapest at my grocery store (walmart was out of them), $17.00 ish - which is cheaper than the $25 strips. I would rather pay a little extra for the peace of mind, than to miss my window. Some may have found the strips work fine, but I didn't. And, I will use 1 FRER (First Response Early Results) test, then the pg strips from here to do the million pg tests!!! Or, I did find some at the dollar store that claimed to test at 20 mil (or whatever the mil part is). I have heard both good and bad about all of them - the strips and the dollar store ones - Some women say they worked, others say they didn't.. But, I still believe a BFP and a BFN are either a BFP or a BFN. I think the one I would trust out of them all, but the most expensive is the FRER.

Dawn, I know docs usually say that's normal, but i think sometimes they say that because they really don't know (and we want an answer). I believe that even though we get BFN, when our cycles are late and heavy, and hurt more and sometimes have tissue stuff, it could be an m/c.. I know there is supposed to be a detectible amount of the hormone before anyone considers it an m/c, but we know when it isn't "normal"... I mean, what about the egg getting fertilized, but not sticking? The hormone isn't detectible then, but isn't it still an m/c? No one knows exactly, but that is how I feel... I don't want to make you sad, or upset, and I apologize if I did.... I am just telling you what I think.... And after having a few miscarriages, i believe from the moment you find out you are pg ( a very faint BFP or half of the line), and even if you end up bleeding 2 days later, it still is an m/c. I think because there are so many variables when it comes to m/c's, no one really knows...

AFM: Ladies, I totally agree about the freakishness of the soft-cups.... Shock I never heard of such a thing!!! I found putting them in hard, because I had to feel to make sure it covered my cervix and my cervix was so far back and hard to reach, it felt like I was fingering my tonsils!! (sorry, TMI, I know, but it's the truth). Then, pulling the sucker out, I was afraid I was pulling out my cervix/tonsils ! It didn't feel very good, either! The plus side to that, was that I could get out of bed and actually not have anything running down my legs, scrambling for a towel and running to the bathroom doing the catwalk !! I lol at movies, when couples BD and then the woman gets up and walks around as if "what goes up, isn't coming out".. Maybe she is just "tighter" than I am.... I dunno... Puzzled

I want to apologize if I write novels.. It doesn't look like it when I am writing, in the little box, but then when it posts, I am like "Whoa, Why The Face??.." So, I am sorry...

I am only 4DPO and am freakin out.... I keep wanting to feel some kind of pain (a twinge, or an implantation cramp, or something!!!), but I feel absolutely nothing... I keep thinking the night we didn't BD, I missed my window.. It was the day before O was positive, so I really don't know.. Are you supposed to skip a day? BD every day? On what days are you supposed to BD if not everyday? I don't know if I am gonna make it to next Wednesday (that will be 9DPO and according to my fertility chart, I can start testing). I know it's going to be early, but I am sure y'all know how I feel.. I admire women who can wait to test, but that's not me.. Then there is the sadness of the BFN which I hate.... help...... Sad(

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