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Wow I can't believe you got AF back that early - so unfair! I think I got to 5 months which was pretty good considering I was only expressing breastmilk not actually properly breastfeeding. I stopped expressing at 3 months and then it was still 2 more months AF free and when it came back it was all over the show, like waaaaay longer cycles and then boom I was up the duff so maybe for me it being less predictable was better haha, I wasn't ovulating until like day 20 something.

OPKs never ever worked for me, I have no idea why (probably just me doing it wrong haha)

The girl vs boy thing is interesting with lungs my friend had girl/boy twins at 26 weeks and I remember her daughter coming of the vent etc quite a bit before the boy did. Apparently developmentally girls are usually a little ahead as well like on a whole they tend to hit milestones earlier than boys. Maybe boys are just a bit more laid back naturally than us ladies are?

I really like what the doctor said about them coming out early to escape. A friend of mine who was due about a month earlier than me with DD had her son 9 weeks early and was told a similar thing. The specialist just said that the baby obviously just knew that he needed to be out and so out he came - how scary he was born at home while they were waiting for the ambulance! They were so lucky that he was a huge baby, seriously over 5lbs at only 31 weeks!

I love that you are already falling back into POAS addiction haha it doesn't take long!

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interesting kiwi Wink

ahhh pms is here... the exact opposite of a good time. This month I am so bloated my stretch marks are itchy Stare

I have to gather my thoughts more properly but want to post about people saying they regret having thier kids Sad & those that try to advise when it's the "best time" to have another baby.... I just want to remind myself to write about this... more to come, so stay tuned Wink

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I get an email with a short bible inspiration each day to my email.... and this was todays (it made me think of a lot of the ladies here) "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." - Matthew 6:34

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So, my mind has been all over the place with ttc & kids & life....
recently DH & I have been hanging out with lots of people who also have children- anywhere from teenage to baby... some of the comments people make about thier own children really makes me sad, worried & well... a whole bag of emotions. From "they are so annoying", to "I regret having them"! I'm sorry, but WHAT? You regret having your kids? That just seems so sad to me. I am really REALLY trying hard not to judge others, as it's just not nice, but accept it's part of being human- & I also know that it's one of those things where you should really walk a mile in someone else's shoes before commenting on thier situation. Anyone else find that sad? Has anyone else heard those types of comments before?

Another thing that has been on the front of my mind (of course) is ttc. Dh & I decided that we should start ttc this coming spring so the kids will be 2 or 3 years apart (hopefully!) WELL- apparently Dh is excited becuase he blabbed his mouth (after we decided to keep it to ourselves) and the comments from people has been everything from positive " I can't wait to see the new baby!" to " you are freakin' nuts" basically. Puzzled
Some of the people are the same ones that said they had regret over having thier kids or the space between thier kids... so I try to keep it in perspecitve.
I guess I've mostly been wondering if it's just American culture that is sooo baby obssessed? I mean, as soon as we were married people asked when we'd have a baby. Then as soon as he was born, it was "when are you having another", " don't have them too close in age" " don't have them too far apart", " oh, perfect it's a boy- no need for anymore!"
I just find it interesting really how much other people feel the need to comment on the best plans for our family. I know I cannot be alone in this...
Sorry for the rambling, I am sure that this post isn't as coherent as I wanted it to be... but am out of time for today...

BABYDUST to all! Smile

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Wow CC I guess we just have to rejoice in our children and be happy that we are happy to have them. Negativity has no place in a family and I hope the people in your life who either regret children or wish they had done things differently learn that they should be happy just to have children, as so many people struggle to have them and want them so much. I`m glad I don`t know anyone that `regrets`their children because I would probably let them have it!!

Also, people are totally baby obsessed and I have to admit I am one of them. Over the years I`ve learned to keep my mouth shut and try not to make people feel awkward with my badgering people to have babies Wink

How are the birthday plans going

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It is def not just American culture that is baby obsessed! Here in NZ it is the same. Not sure if it is because we are so influenced by US culture or not?

As soon as you get married people start badgering you about when you are going to have babies. It must have driven people crazy that we were married for 5 years before we had our daughter. We got married when I was 25 and then we moved overseas for a few years and didn't want to have children in the UK because their health system isn't really like ours and also we didn't own a house etc which was a big deal for us. So once we moved home everyone assumed we would have kids straight away and went on and on and on about it! It got so frustrating, especially when it took quite a while to get pregnant! Nothing worse than people just assuming you are too selfish for kids when you are actually trying to have them!

I have heard a few people say that they regret their children and boy does it make me feel sick. Honestly I have had days where I thought to myself "why did I want this so badly?" but I think that is normal mummy hormones (well I hope so!) I never ever would change things though no matter what!

Have also noticed that people have to have an opinion on everything to do with other people's decisions. I have had a lot of comments on the age gap that we are going to have as it is only 17 months. It helps that my best friend has closer gaps between her children (15 months between no.s 1 and 2 and then 16 months between no.s 2 and 3) she is always telling me how fantastic it is so that helps when everyone else goes on about how I am ruining everything by having a second so soon. I actually have nearly completely cut ties with one friend who is insistent that the "perfect gap" is the gap that she has (3 years or there abouts between her two) but really how is it anyones decision but your own!

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Right?!! How is it anyone else's decision or why people feel the need to constantly comment what thier opinion for your family is?! sheeesh! Puzzled

I am waiting patiently for AF- halloween candy is wayyyy too tempting, I've already eaten bits that are supposed to be handed out later! Stare naughty! Boo to PMS!
Hope everyone has a great day Smile

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haha CC I have the same prob with the candy! I took Ella out to a few houses with my sister and her 3 year old, and now i have Ella's candy plus our left overs just begging me to eat them!!!

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Ahh, the 1st birthday plans! Party

Coming along well- waiting for him to get up from nap so we can head over to the party store... going to get some decorations Smile
NOone has cancelled. That means 70+ people!! YIKES! I am so glad we decided NOT to do this at our house! No way that many people (&15 kids under 10!) would fit!
I am looking forward to it, but at the same time am a little sad- my baby is ONE already!!! *sniff, sniff* Time is FLYING becuase it really dosen't feel like it's been a year since I had him.
BUT I guess it's just how life goes... time marches on... and before I know it... I'll be TTC again Wink

Babydust to all!

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It is insane how quickly a year goes by! I hope you really enjoy the birthday and take lots of pictures!

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