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So DH went to his rheumatologist (not sure how to spell) and he's now off the meds and the doctor assured him that everything would be good to go by spring, and even if something happened accidentally before hand it would be fine too! So I'm excited about that news!! Still feeling pretty bad about my friend who had a miscarriage, she's not taking it well and I don't know what to do for her? Any advice??

Ella has had this ongoing cold now since middle of September, she just can't kick it. We've been to the doctor twice and it's just not going away, I feel so bad for her Sad

How was everyone's weekend?

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I was at a friends babies baptism on Sunday and was sitting in an area where kids can play and crawl around. There was a little girl there walking everywhere, long, long hair just very mature and I asked how old she was. 13 months!!! Same age as my crawling short haired baby! What a difference walking makes, Ella still seems like a little baby (which I love) and I"m not comparing in a negative way, but it's interesting the difference in babies of the same age. It makes me realize that Ella might be a bit behind because she was 2 months early! Interesting for sure Smile

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Sorry about your friend Sad Hopefully something helps her... I don't have anything helpful Sad

Hope Ella is well soon! & As far as her development- it's hard (so hard!) not to compare to other kids the same age- BUT all kids ARE different & unique and as long as she's making progress, I'm sure she's just fine. I have to keep reminding myself of the same... easier said than done- especially with facebook where people post stuff allllll the time about thier kids. If you're ever worried, just check with her Dr. But like I said, I'm sure she's just fine Wink

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Oh I LOVE online shopping - sadly DH has banned me until the new baby arrives because we have been spending way too much lately. All the sites I shop on are NZ ones though so no help for you haha. I am obsessed with this site called The Sleep Store. It has all sorts of advice for getting baby to sleep better but also they have so much cool stuff for sleeping like different swaddles etc and they are soooo helpful with advice you can just facebook them and they tell you anything you want to know - LOVE THEM!

Great news about hubby's appointment, that means that the countdown is on.

Poor Ella and her cold, I know allllll about colds! Lucy was a winter baby (born in June) and last winter she got one cold and was fine after a couple of days. This winter (which is now finished thank goodness) she has been sick pretty much the entire freaking time! It has really messed with her sleeping as well which sucks when I am so tired all the time. Poor little thing has been to the doctor so many times. My theory is that since it is free to go to the doctor I may as well keep taking her to make sure there are no infections. We have been lucky and they have all just been colds with no complications like ear infections etc but sheesh I feel like we live at the GPs rooms! Hopefully she will be over it soon, apparently the first couple of years they are just sick loads until their little immune systems mature a bit.

I have a little baldy as well! She is finally getting it a bit longer on the top at 16 months but at 12 months she was pretty bald still, plus she is blonde so it looks like even less hair. I can get a clip in it now so that is exciting (pity she takes it out after like 1 second)
re walking, some kids just do it sooner than others, I actually think it is more related to personality than other things. DD crawled at 7 months and was pulling up and walking around furniture the day she learned to crawl, I am pretty sure that she was more than capable of walking on her own from about 10 months but she didn't actually properly walk until 12 months, she waited until she was ready to try on her own. Thank goodness because she started running like a week later and now I can't keep up with her!
It is so easy to worry about developmental things as a mum! We spend quite a bit of time with older kids (only a few months older than DD but it makes a huge difference) and I have to really remember that of course some of them can do more than her because they are a lot older and at this age a couple of months makes a huge difference!

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My journey through 'generalized anxiety disorder'

It began in early childhood, I'd always had some anxiety which would cause fainting, panic attacks etc. I would worry constantly. If my parents were out, I'd worry about car accidents, if we were riding bikes I'd think I would fall off, I stressed and stressed and stressed about everything, every little ache or pain I thought the worst. My parents often just brushed it off and never really did much about it, that being said 20 odd years ago it wasn't really talked about.

Fast forward to my teenage years. Though I did still worry a lot it definitely improved for a while. I still stressed and worried but the fainting stopped and the panic went to the back burner.

As I moved out, went to university, got married at 21 and found a career as a teacher the anxiety slowly crept back in. I NEVER told anyone, not even my husband and I honestly didn't even have a name for it. I just thought I worried and felt sick a lot. I was often nauseous.

Around Christmas time 2008, I just knew it was getting worse, whatever 'it' was but I continued to ignore it and keep it to myself. I was teaching full time in a behavior class and was starting to feel sick before work. I would get strange feelings during assemblies like I couldn't escape and would start to panic at the grocery store or in large crowds. Then spring of 2009 all hell broke loose.

I had sore ribs and to most people it wouldn't be a big deal, but they were really bothering me, I didn't know what was wrong. On the last day of school before spring break my and some colleagues decided to go to dinner after work. We went to a pub that I used to work at. I saw an old friend and he gave me a hug which really hurt my ribs (he didn't know they were sore). I felt strange so I went into the washroom and while washing my hands I fainted. I was driven to the hospital and was checked out and released. A couple of days later my mom and I flew to visit my sister in a different province.

Everything was going fine until we were eating at a restaurant and i started to feel funny. We left and went to a drug store where I had a full panic attack and had to leave. I sat in the car and cried. Nothing provoked this attack it was just out of the blue.

From that moment on I had a constant knot in my stomach for about 5 months. I tried to go back to work and couldn't. I had to go on medical leave, I was having panic attacks at work. I got so bad that I was unable to leave the house. I couldn't grocery shop, I couldn't walk my dog, I couldn't even drive very far without having a panic attack. I even got to where I was panicking talking to the renters that lived in our basement. It's so hard to explain anxiety to someone that doesn't have it...and many people don't understand, hell I don't even understand why I have it, I know it's ridiculous I just can't control how my body and mind react to things......

Finally after therapy, medication and a lot of support from family, friends and my hubby I was able to get back to my life. I've been doing really well for the past few years and have been using different strategies as well as medication to stay on track. I've also learned that I need to talk about it and share when I am struggling, I really think that if I had said something sooner I would have improved faster and maybe not gotten as bad as I did.

I worried that having a child would make my anxiety rise again. Thankfully it's done the opposite, I feel like I can put less focus on myself as I have a beautiful child to bring up and I do NOT want her dealing with the things I dealt with!!

Wow, well that was a ramble! If you make it this far, thanks for reading Smile

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Hey Alisha,

Just wanted to say not to worry about Ella being behind. My DD Mckenzie was born at 39 weeks and didn't start walking until 16 months. I remember being so worried that she was behind but now she's all over the place. Ella will do things at her own pace. I know it's so hard not to compare, we all do it Wink

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend, trust me I know how she feels. The only advice I can offer is to talk to her about it. I found it really upsetting when people thought it best not to mention it and pretend like everything was ok. Just let her know she can talk to you and that you'll listen. That's about the only thing you can do. Hope that helps a bit.

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Alisha, I just wanted to chime in regarding the GAD...I can really relate to you here. I have had serious anxiety issues my whole life (the irrational worry controlled me for a LONG long time). It's honestly taken me 4 miscarriages and almost 4 years of TTC to let go of some of that... realizing how not in control we are and learning how to let go. I'm still not perfect. I am so glad to hear having your daughter has helped! It's amazing what tools God will use to help us through some of our issues. Smile

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wow that's quite a journey Alisha... so happy to hear you're doing well & having a baby didn't make it come back Smile

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I'm so frustrated today!! I've been steadily losing weight since Ella was born. I was about 165 pounds pre-pregnancy, got up to about 190 during pregnancy, not ideal and now I'm around 157, better, but my goal is 150 by Christmas, and 140 by spring. My friend and I weigh in on Monday mornings and share our results. I hate weighing in on Monday because I usually end up over-indulging over the weekend in food and a few beers. So this morning I'm at 159 BOOOOO!!!! Time to start being better on the weekends!! Any good weight loss tips? I try to eat clean, and I've started going on my treadmill again...I'd love any tips!!! Smile

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cut out wheat and all processed foods from your diet. My aunt lost 40 pounds by doing this.