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Try not to worry about Ella (easier said than done, I know) I am like that with Lucy, she is 16 months and has never slept anywhere overnight without me. She would be fine, it is me that freaks out haha. Luckily my MIL lives only a couple of blocks away so she can just come over and watch her here for us and then go home. Generally she sleeps the whole time we are out anyway so I don't know why I worry so much! PS she still wakes in the night sometimes!!!! Mainly it is teething related or if she is sick though, so generally I just give her a bottle and she happily goes back to sleep so really can't complain although it can be hard work when you are pregnant and feeling lazy!

Most pregnancies here are midwife lead. So they do all the monitoring and testing etc and are the leads during the birth as well. You can see an ob if you want to but you have to pay if you are seeing a specialist for no reason. If there is an issue or you are high risk in some way you then see either both your midwife and an ob or just an ob. Since I ended up having an emergency c-section last time I had to go to the hospital and see a specialist to decide what to do this time.
If you have had a straight forward pregnancy you can choose to labour at the birth centre (soooo nice there and a lot less medicalised) they don't carry the hard drugs just gas and air. They have all the monitoring equip etc for if it is needed but if they have any concerns they transfer the mum to the hospital. Or you can choose to birth at the hospital but your midwife is the lead but can call on the specialist and other staff if needed.
Then once you have the baby you see the midwife everyday for the first week to check growth of baby and mums recovery etc and then you see them for 6 weeks after the birth until you get handed over to plunket who do the Wellchild monitoring (so our kids don't go to peadiatricians for checking etc they get monitored at a special place unless there is something wrong with them. They get measured etc until they start school.
And yay the best part is everything is free for maternity care and doctors visits etc for under 5 year olds.

Our maternity leave is fairly crappy but better than the US from what I hear (I find it so strange that the US and Canada are such poles apart with mat. leave etc!) We get 14 weeks paid leave, but it isn't your actual salary there is a limit of what you can get so because I had a well paying job I took paid leave for 4 weeks then the paid parental leave for another 14 weeks but that was a lot less than I would normally get paid (better than nothing though I guess) and then you are allowed up to 52 weeks unpaid leave before you either go back to work or quit - I quit because I HATED my job so much.

Good idea going to the DR with DH, when mine sees the GP which is pretty much never, I ask him what they said and he generally just answers "oh nothing much" Like seriously!

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WOW that is so different from here. It is very rare to deliver outside of a hospital and I can only think of maybe 1 birthing centre in the area. I had an epidural and the nurse said that in the last few months every single mother had had the epidural, even if they went in planning to not have it. There's no options for water births or for laboring in different ways ie. with ball, water, shower etc. It's all very fast, doctor led and medical, not a lot of room for different techniques. And, if you did want a midwife there are really long waiting lists and not many of them around. That being said Canada is nice in the way that we do have free healthcare, so the only thing I paid for during my whole pregnancy and delivery was a room upgrade to a private room. I also had 52 weeks maternity leave, it's something like 14 weeks medical leave then the rest is unemployment insurance so it's less than your salary and tops out at $2000/month but it's still not bad for a year!!

Kiwi, do you think you'll need a c section this time around?

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PS: The hubs and I had date night! Dinner and a movie (Taken 2). Haven't gone to a movie together since way before Ella was born! We figured the last movie we saw in theater together was how to train your dragon......yikes!!

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Thx Alsiha, I think I will start a blog Smile
YAY date night!!! Big smile How did Ella do on her overnight?

As for maternity leave here in the us- 6 weeks (if you're "lucky") some employers won't let you take paid, 6 weeks I think is the law, that they need to hold your job. It's sad that there is NO support for new moms in that regard. I quit my job when I was preggers- so I could have that all wrong! don't quote me on it, lol.

ps- sorry about your friend. so sad to hear of pregnancy loss Sad

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The differences are so interesting! Here they will not offer you an epi generally you have to actually ask for it I assume that most people who deliver at hospital choose to do it so they have the option of getting the epidural. I had already decided to birth at the hospital because my mum had a lot of issues in labour and I wanted to be somewhere where there was help straight away if needed plus I ended up having to have surgery on an ovarian cyst at 14 weeks pregnant so they decided they wanted me at the hospital just in case. Then I had to get induced anyway since I was 2 weeks overdue - blah inductions suck!
Have decided to have an elective c-section this time. They are really pro VBAC here so I was a bit worried that they would push me that way but now that this baby is measuring 2 weeks ahead even my midwife thinks the c-section is a better option.

The other random thing here is that breastfeeding is really pushed a lot. Like they won't talk about bottle feeding AT ALL in antenatal classes and the midwives won't talk about it. At the hospital they don't give you a choice at all you HAVE to breastfeed and while I agree that breast is best it is really sucky when baby won't latch and no one has told you anything about how to make a bottle etc. I ended up having to express and bottle feed DD for the first 3 months and then switched to formula which I felt SO guilty about, it is made out to be this terrible thing that will make your child fat and stupid etc so is really upsetting when you add the mummy hormones to that!

Oh date night sounds awesome! We have some movie passes that DH got for his birthday that we need to use in the next few weeks so will get MIL to come and watch the munchkin while we are out. What did you think of Taken2? It is on at the moment and I liked the first one but not usually a fan of sequels.

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Date night was nice! Taken 2 was ok, I think my dh enjoyed it more than me, the violence got a bit much by the end! Ella did bad overnight though! lol, she was up A LOT and didn't nap either day with my sis, thankfully she is totally fine with being up with baby all night and Ella was in a great mood. Tonight back at home has been a different story....she is so overtired! I tried to put her down at 6:30 (her usual bed time is 7) but she cried till 8:30 whether or not I was holding her, it sucked but she's sleeping now!

Kiwi-that's kind of crazy about how much they push nursing! They push it here too but not nearly as much. I nursed for a year but that was because of support from my sister in law who was also nursing at the same time. I have friends who have done straight to bottle, half and half and all boob, and I would never judge a mother on what she chooses to feed her child, it's no one's business! It sucks that you don't get support if you decide to bottle feed Sad .

CC-I'm so glad you started a blog!! I'm going to read it now Smile

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I'm so excited, tomorrow we are going to get Ella's 1 year photos taken. I've gone to the same photographer for new born, 6 months and now 1 year. I love them they do a great job. I'm hoping to get a couple of the family and then the photographer can photo shop the sh#t out of me! I want to look h.o.t Big smile

I'm already tired of working and wish I was on mat leave again! After we have a 2nd I won't be going back to work, the cost of child care is not worth it! My SIL watches ella for 30/day and 20/half day so it's d-able with one child but 2 would be working for pennies! I'm not even working full time right now, I don't know how people with kids work full time jobs-kudos!!

I am a teacher at a school for the Deaf with some challenging students, it's totally rewarding and fun but exhausting too! I only work on average 2-3 days a week and I honestly don't know if I could do more! It's funny I taught in the high school yesterday and an entire grade 12 class (which only consists of 6 kids) skipped the class cause they saw I was a sub (I usually teach elementary so the kids didn't know I worked there). I had to laugh cause back in the day I would have probably done the same thing Wink

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one last thing...
I'm kind of an obsessive online shopper, as in, I have usually about 5-8 things coming in the mail and sometimes I forget what it is until it arrives...it's like christmas when the mailman comes....

Just curious if anyone knows of any good sites? I currently frequent
zulily
old navy
beyond the rack
various etsy shops

I'm always on the look out for new shopping sites so hit me up!!

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Cool oohh, online shopping! I used to be bad with that. I ordered just about every baby gadget on the planet I think.... I am well stocked up! Tongue
I am a hand-me-down junkie for clothes. LOL. I think I rationalize all the baby "gear" by using free handmedowns... Wink
I loooove etsy too! Big smile

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I'm lucky cause my sister has a 3 year old girl and I get ALL her clothes and they are adorable. She also gave me a ton of gear so you'd think I'd be set but noooo I go out and buy more stuff! It's just so fun to buy for baby and you don't feel guilty cause it's not technically for you Wink

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