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AlishaTrying
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Hello! (comments welcome)
I was on here 2 years or so ago when I was ttc my first baby. I was quite active in the blog at first but then kind of kept to the background. I kept up with my 'buddy' group but mostly just read everyone else's journeys. I logged back on here about 2 weeks ago and was so happy to see how many people had given birth to beautiful babies and how many were still persevering in their ttc journey.

I conceived after about 4 months (March 2011). At 31 weeks my water broke (more on that later). I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl on September 24th at 32 weeks. Ella Sophia was 4lbs 10oz and a rock star! She was in the NICU for 17 days, she didn't need oxygen or any support like that, she only had a feeding tube. She was released at 35 weeks at 5 lbs 3 oz. She is now 1 year old and 20 lbs and eating like crazy! I nursed for a year and am very excited to have my boobs back Smile

So why am I on here blogging if I've already conceived? Well, in about 6 months we are going to start ttc all over again. I loved the community on this site and I am super excited about ttc again, and also nervous, because of #1 my risk of early labor, and maybe having to go on bed rest with a toddler #2 my dh has rheumatoid arthritis and in order for us to get pregnant again he needs to go off his heavy duty medications for 6 months (hence the 6 month wait!). The meds he's on could cause some pretty brutal birth defects so I want to be safe and make sure his system is clear. #3 I have a really wonky cycle anywhere from 29-45 days so ovulation is tricky.

I thought blogging and reading other peoples journeys would make the wait seem more bearable! When Ella was even just 7 months I wanted more babies, but because of my high risk and to be fair to our family I want to wait until spring when she'll be about 19 months.

Anyways that's enough blabbing from me! I'd love to hear about you and your stories of ttc. Lets make this wait more bearable together!!

Here's a question for you....have you ever heard of a doctor accidentally breaking someones water? I honestly think that's what happened to me, but I'll expand on that later!!

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AlishaTrying
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Good Morning!!
Regarding my doctor breaking the water comment....so I'm about 31 weeks along and my dh and I have sex. I go to the bathroom (sorry tmi) and I have a tiny bit of blood like tiny, now this I believe, can be normal after sex but I get nervous and after calling the health link decide to go get checked out, just because it's my 3rd trimester.

I go to the hospital and get wheeled on up to the prenatal area and they hook me up to monitors and check baby and everything is looking a-ok. Then they decide to do an internal check of my cervix (I did not know that I had the option to refuse this). So a student doctor comes in and checks and I mean it's invasive and painful but they say that it all looks good.

I get up and leave the hospital with an appointment the following day for a follow up. As I get in my car I think wow that gel that they use to check me is really leaking! All day it continues and I don't think much of it I assume its the lubricant they used.

When I wake up the next morning my pants are soaked through and I start to worry so I put on pad, and tell my dh that he should probably come with me to the follow up. We go in I tell the doctor and they do a check and my water had broken.
DOES THAT NOT SEEM FISHY?!!!!!!!! I immediately thought that student doctor broke my water!! It seems a little fishy that after a tiny amount of blood and NO other symptoms my water would just magically break the second I leave the hospital........
what do you guys think?? That's partially why I'm thinking my next baby might go full term?? If it was a doctors mistake....I just know next pregnancy I'm REFUSING an internal exam!!

If you are reading this please feel free to comment! I don't mind writing to myself but I'd love to hear about you and your journey!

I'm 28, my dh is 30 (today) and my baby girl is 1. We live in Alberta, Canada. I have to remember to comment on the rate of preemie babies in AB...........

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AlishaTrying
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Hello, Hello

I've been thinking lately about my friends and myself, who have had babies and how none of us have had easy pregnancies or births. We all live in AB which has a really high number of preemie births for some reason..........and this is what's happened.

friend #1 ok pregnancy but had to have a c section

friend #2 1st pregnancy super high blood pressure had to have an emergency induction.

friend #2 baby #2 on bed rest for blood pressure-induced again, traumatic birth-baby was stuck and stopped breathing spent 4 days in NICU.

friend #3 Had baby at 34 weeks spend 3 weeks on oxygen in NICU

friend #4 severe preclampsia

friend #5 had blood clotting after c-section had to have emergency surgery

me-Had baby at 32 weeks ,spend 3 weeks in NICU with feeding tube.

All babies and moms are fine now, but I think it's crazy that in such a short time an all in the same province so many traumatic births took place!! I wonder what's causing this, is it stress? environmental? and what can we do to prevent it in our next pregnancies?

food for thought....
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Hi Alisha and welcome! That's a crazy story about your water breaking. If I were you I would definitely be leaning towards believing the internal exam had to have caused it to break.

We also seem to have a bit in common: I'm from Toronto, Ontario so we're fellow Canadians Smile I'm 29 and DH is 34 and we have a baby girl who is almost 2 so we're trying for baby #2 as well. Looking forward to sharing the experience with you. I was on here with my DD and felt like there were lots of women to chat with and lately it seems like it's not so busy around here. There's not a single woman in the pregnancy pals thread for spring babies...kinda sad!

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AlishaTrying
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Hey Mandy it's nice to see someone else on here! It does seem a lot quieter than it used to be! I just read your blog, it's crazy the things you've gone through, I can't even imagine. I like being able to come on here and vent or say how i feel. I know it seems dumb to some of my friends/family that I am counting down to when I Can start trying for #2 but I just love being a mom and I can't wait to have more babies! I know it will happen for you!! I'm going to live vicariously through your ttc experience until I can start my own once the arthritis drugs are out of my hubby's system!!

I know when you have a preemie that you are supposed to wait 2 years, but I'm waiting less I just have to start sooner I can't wait!!!
oh mandy what's your daughters name?!

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prayers to my gf today who is about 9 weeks along with her second. She's had bleeding for a while now and is finding out results from her ultra sound today at 430. Blood came back good here's hoping all looks well with her baby too! So scary.....

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my friend miscarried. I feel awful for her. Sad

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So sorry about your friend.
I just had a read of your blog and know exactly what you mean about loving being a mum and wanting to have more ASAP. It took us quite a while to conceive our first daughter so when she was 6 months old I was ready to start trying again in case it took a long time - shock horror when she was 8 months we conceived so now am just on countdown for this baby to be born.
I saw what you were saying about all your friends having traumatic births etc very interesting. I live in NZ so find overseas maternity care very different to what happens here. Of all my close friends and family who have had babies in the last couple of years only one other had to have a c-section and everyone else had straight forward labours and deliveries at birthing centres. My SIL had a nearly 10lb baby with no issues (and no drugs!) so I do wonder if it is something to do with how the medical system works! Or maybe my friends are all just natural breeders haha.
re your water being broken if they were rough and you were a little dilated already then it is totally possible that they punctured it enough for it to break when you left. I got induced and had a couple of people do exams who were really rough and when my midwife went to break my waters the next day there was nothing to break so most likely someone gave me a slow leak as well - different for me clearly since I was after my due date anyway but there was def fluid when I got there as they did a scan and pointed out all the fluid.

Sorry, here I am writing a novel on your blog!
Good luck with your journey!

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Hey Alisha!! Welcome back! Glad to hear you and Ella are well! We are going to be TTC right around the same time.
It's very quiet around here these days... some of our old group is still there... I post a little bit from time to time. I am contemplating an individual blog here though
No body (except people here) know of my countdown to ttc... I am looking forward to it Big smile

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Thanks Kiwi, I feel so bad I don't know what to do for her, I'm sending flowers....I hope to go visit her soon. She lives 2 1/2 hours away. Regarding the birth issues, I totally think it's something about where we live we are so hospital oriented and we don't listen to our bodies we just do what we are told by the 'professional'! I was contemplating a midwife for our 2nd but due to my high risk of a preemie I don't think we'll be accepted. When I went to the ob I felt like a cow being herded in and out so quick I barely had time to ask a question. Even when we first heard the heart beat it was like 2 seconds, I'm glad I bought a doppler so I could listen at home! In NZ do they have more midwives?? How long is your maternity leave? THat's the one think I love about Canada is that we get a year off!

Hey CC!! Congrats on your little one! Almost a year wow! I cant believe how fast time has gone! We are totally going to be ttc buddies again!! You should start a blog! Or we should start a, waiting to ttc forum lol! I'd love to hear your birth story and read your whole journey again so you should start your own blog!!

So tonight is Ella's first night away from home without me Sad she is staying at my sisters 30 min away! I have to work 2 days in a row and my usual babysitter is out of town so Ella is spending the night! The hubs and I are taking advantage and doing dinner and a movie but I already feel naked without my baby!! I'll try to enjoy myself and not miss her too much. I stress about her not sleeping well away from home and keeping everyone up. She is finally sleeping through the night at home... only took a year Wink

Now that ttc our second is in the not so distant future it seems to be all I want/can think about and I see pregnant people everywhere! I can't wait to have another! THought I could wait for the sickness yikes my morning sickness (or all day sickness) was brutal!!

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Oh and next week on the 22nd is my dh doc appointment to find out exactly what he has to do to get these meds out of his system. I want to go with him to make sure he gets all the info that I want!!

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