Hi there Babyplease and Meditrina: I totally agree with you both,
it's so unfair the way that women are treated when experiencing a m/c. I wasn't aware until after my m/c that almost 50% of pregnancies end in m/c within the first trimester.
I get soooo tired of the doctors saying that I'm soooo old to be trying to have another child when almost everyday I see women older then myself pregnant for the first time without IV.
Meditrina, I'm soooo sorry that you have been through 5m/c's! I admire you for still having the faith and strength to continue TTC! I've only had 2 m/c's but the problem is that they were so close together and only about 4mths apart.
How do you handle all the pain of going through all that heartbreak on a daily basis??
People always say that God doesn't give you more then you can handle but enough is enough, already!!
Do you have any children of your own? Me, I, have a 23mth old son named Adren, he's my blessing! I love him and DH more then anything else in this whole world!!
Please you and Babyplease email me with a little info on yourselves. I'd love to hear from you both again. Please take care of yourselves, pray daily, and never give up, God will bless
us with our babies, sooner then later!!
You're both wish lots and lots of BD! Talk to you both later!!
Thank you so much for the inspiration! I am 21, have been married for a year and a half, and we are trying for our first bundle of joy! I am on my second cycle TTC, and this is a lot harder than I thought it would be, not only to get PG, but just all the waiting! I have wanted to be a mom more than anything since I was a little girl, hence the reason we are starting a family so soon. DH and I are so happy together, and just can't wait until we can get our little baby! Just playing the waiting game, and hoping we timed everything right.
Although I have (that I know of) not had a m/c, I have had friends who have had them, so I am familiar with the grief and sadness one can feel over losing their child. Its amazing how some people go into the medical profession and lose their compassion... if they had it in the first place. I can only assume after a while they get jaded by their jobs and have to detach themselves emotionally to continue being able to do their jobs but these people come to them for help! THey are sick and confused, and most often scared. I know their job is tough (my sister is in the medical field as a physician assistant), but compassion is not something that should be lost. Esp. when it comes to women in this very tough moment in their lives. Its sooo frustrating and very sad to hear.
adrensmom~
I honestly can say I understand where you are coming from. I have one m/c (Aug 2006 at 11w) before my DS, who will be 22 months soon, and have had 4 in the last year. (July & Oct 2008 both at 6w, Jan 2009 at 8w and May 2009 at 9.5w) It is hard to be so happy and in love with you new lo and then have that taken all away, basically in a matter of minute. The heartbreak is tremendous and there is not a day that goes by I don't think about where I would be if I didn't lose the babes.... Where in the pg would I be or would I have a newborn in my arms??? But I can't allow myself to dwell on it or I don't think I would get out of bed. I keep TTC in hopes to have the big family I always wanted and so my DS does not have to grow up alone. I just keep pushing on and trying to find answers. I had to have the 3 m/c in a row before I could get any testing done.....and by the time any of it came back i had lost the fourth. I sometimes think, if the Dr's would just care a little more and test earlier I would not have had so much heartbreak and stress, but then again they feel the need to follow best practice. Also the tests are fairly expensive, but honestly I think they should just give ppl a choice to pay for it if they want it earlier than recommended. I would have. I found I have a slight clotting issue and need to take lots of extra folic acid and bit vits to hopefully counteract it and then take either baby aspirin or an injextable blood thinner while pg..... This is my 2nd cycle ttc since finding this out, so it gives me a new hope. But it also angers me beyond beleif, beacuse if they had just tersted and had me take extra folic acid....I would have a baby right now.....super frustrating!
Good luck with your ttc journey. Maybe you should take extra folic acid because older women ttc are more likely to have babies with neural tube defects and downs etc.... It may help, but who really knows. Even the Dr's say they don't
Hi there Babyplease and Meditrina: I totally agree with you both,
it's so unfair the way that women are treated when experiencing a m/c. I wasn't aware until after my m/c that almost 50% of pregnancies end in m/c within the first trimester.
I get soooo tired of the doctors saying that I'm soooo old to be trying to have another child when almost everyday I see women older then myself pregnant for the first time without IV.
Meditrina, I'm soooo sorry that you have been through 5m/c's! I admire you for still having the faith and strength to continue TTC! I've only had 2 m/c's but the problem is that they were so close together and only about 4mths apart.
How do you handle all the pain of going through all that heartbreak on a daily basis??
People always say that God doesn't give you more then you can handle but enough is enough, already!!
Do you have any children of your own? Me, I, have a 23mth old son named Adren, he's my blessing! I love him and DH more then anything else in this whole world!!
Please you and Babyplease email me with a little info on yourselves. I'd love to hear from you both again. Please take care of yourselves, pray daily, and never give up, God will bless
us with our babies, sooner then later!!
You're both wish lots and lots of BD! Talk to you both later!!
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ardernsmom~
Thank you so much for the inspiration! I am 21, have been married for a year and a half, and we are trying for our first bundle of joy! I am on my second cycle TTC, and this is a lot harder than I thought it would be, not only to get PG, but just all the waiting! I have wanted to be a mom more than anything since I was a little girl, hence the reason we are starting a family so soon. DH and I are so happy together, and just can't wait until we can get our little baby! Just playing the waiting game, and hoping we timed everything right.
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-Markelle
Although I have (that I know of) not had a m/c, I have had friends who have had them, so I am familiar with the grief and sadness one can feel over losing their child. Its amazing how some people go into the medical profession and lose their compassion... if they had it in the first place. I can only assume after a while they get jaded by their jobs and have to detach themselves emotionally to continue being able to do their jobs but these people come to them for help! THey are sick and confused, and most often scared. I know their job is tough (my sister is in the medical field as a physician assistant), but compassion is not something that should be lost. Esp. when it comes to women in this very tough moment in their lives. Its sooo frustrating and very sad to hear.
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adrensmom~
I honestly can say I understand where you are coming from. I have one m/c (Aug 2006 at 11w) before my DS, who will be 22 months soon, and have had 4 in the last year. (July & Oct 2008 both at 6w, Jan 2009 at 8w and May 2009 at 9.5w) It is hard to be so happy and in love with you new lo and then have that taken all away, basically in a matter of minute. The heartbreak is tremendous and there is not a day that goes by I don't think about where I would be if I didn't lose the babes.... Where in the pg would I be or would I have a newborn in my arms??? But I can't allow myself to dwell on it or I don't think I would get out of bed. I keep TTC in hopes to have the big family I always wanted and so my DS does not have to grow up alone. I just keep pushing on and trying to find answers. I had to have the 3 m/c in a row before I could get any testing done.....and by the time any of it came back i had lost the fourth. I sometimes think, if the Dr's would just care a little more and test earlier I would not have had so much heartbreak and stress, but then again they feel the need to follow best practice. Also the tests are fairly expensive, but honestly I think they should just give ppl a choice to pay for it if they want it earlier than recommended. I would have. I found I have a slight clotting issue and need to take lots of extra folic acid and bit vits to hopefully counteract it and then take either baby aspirin or an injextable blood thinner while pg..... This is my 2nd cycle ttc since finding this out, so it gives me a new hope. But it also angers me beyond beleif, beacuse if they had just tersted and had me take extra folic acid....I would have a baby right now.....super frustrating!
Good luck with your ttc journey. Maybe you should take extra folic acid because older women ttc are more likely to have babies with neural tube defects and downs etc.... It may help, but who really knows. Even the Dr's say they don't
~Mary
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