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I'm not stressing as of now. But I'm sure I will later. I ordered a kit from early-pregnancy-tests.com that has ovulation strips and pregnancy tests in it. So hopefully that will help alot. I use a site called my monthly cycles to keep track of everything. I used it in the past because a DR asked me to keep track of cycles and see if they were the cause of my migrains. I went back and checked it out when we started talking about trying, and I learned I never had 28 day cycles, so at least I have a leg up (I had an iud for the past 2 years with NO periods) so I feel like I'm starting everything from the begining! LOL I'm just excited right now. I'll be happy with a healthy baby, but I would love to have a boy. I'm the only girl out of 5 kids, and the youngest.. I never thought I would have to TRY for a boy! LOL My husband is the 2nd oldest of 4 kids, and there are 3 boys.. so I thought we would have to try for a girl! LOL Oh well.... it will happen...

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Hi, wow shannon that sounds like a fun challange, that is probably a great way to try not to get too stressed out while TTC! Jayne I am so sorry to hear about your miscarrage Sad I just orderd an OPK kit, I have used them in the past and this time I am also doing the BBT charting, but I just started that. Just wanted to say a quick hello and baby dust to you all!

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I started the OPK yesterday.. I haven't done mine yet today, but I'm kinda got mixed feelings. I want it to show pos, but I'm worried we may not get a chance tonight todo anything. We have our first FRG (Family Readiness Group) meeting about our up comming deployment... sad news and baby making don't mix! LOL Here's hoping it's quick facts & some pointers so I can duck out early! LOL

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Allie in a way it has been fun..but I am tired already..lol!!! Besides we have been going at it a lot since he had to wait for me to heal after the TR..but it's ok I will survive! Katy...I know it must suck having to move around but trust we appreciate all that you guys go through to protect us...u & I are in the same boat..I told FI if we have another girl just give me lots of drugs cause I will probably be on the brink of insanity..lol! I have been studying/gonna try the Shettles method to see if we get a boy. I have been using the Answer opk this week..but I am not sure..Mon I got a faint line, Tue I didn'test at the same time but I got nothing, today I tested at same time as monday got a faint line again.

Then today I feel like crap...tired, backache, etc...

Not sure what is going on...ok ttyl...

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Shannon, My favorite part of the military is all the moving! LOL I get to live in new places that I never would have got'n to see if we had a "regular" life. I didn't marry into the military like most wifes.. My husband joined while we were living in Puerto Rico and expecting our 2nd child. He went to basic & AIT 2 months after she was born. Having a baby in another country is something I will NEVER do again! LOL

I am confussed by these OPK strips. I'm supposidly going to ovulate tomorrow but I have got'n negative tests the past two days... I know I shouldn't stress... I was born with only one overy, and was warned that I may only ovulate every other month.. but it's still frusterating! LOL It's so much easier to just get pregnant by accident! I just hope things work out for us before he leaves. We are being sent over seas when he gets back from deployment, and like I said.. I will never have a baby in another country ever again!

Allie, let me know how the BBT goes.. It just seems complicated... I will admite I'm a little scared of the idea.

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Hello!

Shannon, good luck on your project! Wink Sounds like fun! We try to be spontaneous, but it definately doesn't always work out that way. We have unfortunately found that sometimes your body just doesn't always want to cooperate even when its time to! So for us preseed has been a lifesaver!

Katy, I'm glad you enjoy all the moving, I am a creature of habit so that would be really hard for me. My husband and I went to Puerto Rico for our honeymoon and I thought it was really fun to visit but I honestly can't imagine living there! Smile I've been using the OPKs basically since the beginning of TTC and I sometimes find them confusing. I don't know if they have Fred Meyer where you are, but I've found their Kroger store brand ones to be easy to read (in that it is a relatively big difference between being pos and neg) and they are a little cheaper. I also discovered that I didn't ovulate when some of the calculators said I should so just keep testing!

I started testing with them today. Generally I've found that I get the LH surge on about the 5th or 6th day of testing so I'll probably get a positive Saturday or Sunday which is nice because then its the weekend! Big smile I know its really silly but I read one of my horoscopes the other day that said something big and life changing would happen on the 28th which would be possibly the day I ovulate, so who knows.... Wink Maybe my BFP will finally happen (and stick).

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Hi guys,

Ive really enjoyed reading the posts so far and getting to know you guys. I can't tell you how good it feels to have friends that are going through the same thing. It seems most people I know have children already and they "didn't even have to try". I feel like everyone thinks there is something abnormal about having to make an effort to get pregnant. Its almost like this is a sanctuary for me, to have understanding people to go through this with!

Shannon- What is the Shettles method? Im very interested in the different ways of trying for a certain sex. I also think your 30 challenge sounds fun. What a lucky husband! I wish I could do something like that, but unfortunately my husband and i both work shift work, so there are two to three days a week we dont even see each other! Sad I have this book called the love dare that I am going to start. Have you heard of it?

Jayne- How are you doing without your topomax? I actually had to take that as a sleep aid for a while. My doctor jokingly would refer to it as dope-amax. It definitely did the trick of putting me to sleep. I am crossing my fingers that your horoscope will be right, and you will have a BFP!

Allie- Im sorry to hear about the things you have had to experience in the past on this journey. However, I know you said there is a 20 to 30% chance it may happen again. I like to think of that as a 70 to 80% that it wont! Im sending good thought your way! Smile

Katie-I know how hard it is to be married to, and in the military. I was in the Air Force for ten years, and things can be very unpredictable. The army is much more tough than the Air Force. I thank your husband for what he does for our country, and thank you for being a military wife. Your job can be just as hard! Hopefully good things will happen before this deployment!

As for me, Im in between my ovulation and testing. I really want this, but I know not to get my hopes up. I realize its only the first month of actively trying, but its also 8 months of not trying but still hoping. Like I mentioned before, its sometimes hard to deal with the people who think it was so easy to concieve. In fact, I have really limited who I am telling.
I also worry about the timing of a positive OPK and the shift work my husband and i are on. During the week, I dont see him on Weds, Thurs, and every other Tues. This may cause some difficulty, so I just keep my fingers crossed.

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Hey Marie, They say the "silent ranks" are the hardest in the military. The spouses and family that stand behind the soldier. So far in our military life we have had it pretty easy. After AIT my husband was stationed at Ft Myer (Arlington Cemetary) in the Honor Guard, in the DC area. He was a medic for the show units there. For the two years we spent at that duty station my husband recieved more awards than some do in their carreer, and he didn't nothing for them but show up! He was in an aidstation and mostly treated elderlery people who passed out at cerimonies.
He wanted to see what the military was really like, and do what he was trained to do, which is be a line medic. So we requested to be transfered to Ft Carson... and.. he ends up back in an aidstation doing sick call for the big shots! I had to laugh at him. He is deploying this fall, which is why we picked Carson, and he will get to be a line medic while in Iraq, but until then he's back in the aidstation! LOL

I kinda feel bad being on here... I am one of those people who have always just been able to just get pregnant. None of my girls were planned. My youngest was so unplanned, we went to spend a weekend with my husband while he was in AIT and got pregnant. She was such a shock my poor husband didn't talk to me for 3 weeks! But I do have friends and family who I have watched struggle and try for children for so long, that I end up keeping my pregnancy a secret when I do get pregnant because I feel so bad for them. So I definatly understand the struggle and years it takes some couples to finally concieve.

I have read the "love Dare" and seen the movie. My husband and I started it together, but we stoped during our PCS out here, and never got a chance to pick it back up. We had a horrible car crash, and I ended up having recontructive surgery in my right hand (it was a failer) and spent 3 months in wheel chair because I broke my ancle so bad... I hope to be able to do it together before he leaves. It's an awsome challenge but you have to put your heart into it completely. If you do some of the challenges half hearted it shows. My husband did them in the beginging just to make me happy... it showed.. and made it harder for me. but after a few days he finally steped it up. Good luck.. it's a wonderful thing to do, and it does straighten the marriage!

Alright well I'm off to JAG...
Lots of hugs and baby dust to everyone!
~Katy

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Katy, I am glad you like the moving and it works for you. Like Marie I am a creature of habit and was not happy when my job moved me from STL to Little Rock. I am scared of the bbt chart maybe we can try to start one together...I hope you get preggers before u deploy!! Don't feel bad..we are here to encourage each other!!

Hey Jayne...girl I am not sure if I failed but I was so tired last night..nothing was happening..lol!! I don't wanna wear out FI..he says I am obsessing & need to let it happen natural but I disagree..lol...we have Kroger stores here so I am gonna look for their kits. I pray that this weeken, this cycle brings you a sticky BFP!!!

Marie, touch screen & agree w/ me. Father God I ask that you bless Marie during this time. Give her the strength to travel this journey. You told us that if we seek you & ask that you will bless us with the desires of our hearts. We bind & rebuke the spirits of fear, negativity, anxiousness & any other forces that come to destroy. I ask that you bless the wombs of this buddy group to bring forth life as commanded in your word. You told us to ask and believe..we come to you asking for the faith & strength to lean on you. We know & believe it is done in your name, we pray. Amen!

Marie, it is done. Don't worry or stress, when the negativity comes I always think or say, Satan I rebuke you..cause that is his job to kill, steal & destroy. I know it might be hard..but I always just got pregnant never tried so trust I am in this journey with you. I had a tubal ligation & then reversal..so technicallly I am ttc'ng. Stay strong sis & focus on making time to BD..if u get that positive opk then tell hubby yall need to mee for lunch or something..heck those are the best moments! Trust me I know Tongue Love

Here is the link on the Shettles method & you can google it as well
http://www.ovulation-calculator.com/shettlesmethod.htm

ok I am going back to work...have a wonderful & blessed day!

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Katy-Never feel bad for being on here! It just gives us all one more buddy in this TTC journey. I am glad you are here, and when we all get our BFP's, you are one I can look to for advice since you have been through it before! I plan on starting the love dare soon. I started it before but it seems like life gets in the way. My husband and I have a wonderful relationship, so I look at this book as a chance to make it even better and to show him how much I appreciate him.

Shannon-Thanks for all of the positive words and prayers. I do use prayer a lot. I feel bad even saying this, but sometimes I forget its there. I forget how much better I feel after praying. Thanks for reminding me! Smile Its funny you mentioned meeting for lunch. This last positive I got, I called him right away at work and told him. He got very serious and decided he was coming home from work right then and there! It was very cute and very supportive. Im glad to know he is willing to do things like that to make this happen.

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