DH and I got married on 10-4-08, I am going to be 32 this month and he is 30....decided to wait a few months before we wanted to start trying (which was coordinated with my BFF and her husband as to when they were ready to start trying). Well, they decided they still weren't ready when we were so we started without them! But here we are on our 8th try.
We went from just bd'ing to now, using PreSeed, SoftCups, I take prenatals, b6 and EPO, he is taking a multivitamin and additional 500mg of Vit C, I chart BBT and CM........
SO, there you have it. And here we are. Still trying and still nothing. If nothing happens this month, we are going to get a SA done JUST to make sure the pipes are working...
Ok this is where we are: married 11/28/07...we have been together off and on since my daughter was 6 months old and she is now 10. We started trying as soon as we got married b/c I am now 33 and DH (Eddie) is 38. So this month makes a full 2 years for us. My BF also started trying the same time as us and has been pg 3 times since then. Her last pg ended in m/c ...but she has 2 beautiful girls.
I started seeing a new GYN dr this year and have seen her twice...(Jan and July of this year) of course her advice on the first visit was to try another 6 months and let her know...on the july visit she said for me to start with the OPK and let her know at my next appt 1/13/10. I told DH that if we are not pregnant by then I will ask her what the next step is or ask her to refer a fertility Dr.
I will be praying for you everyday and am so looking forward to going through this TTC journey together and encouraging each other.
I love my doc. She is fantastic. Since we just started around my last appt in April, she said it could take up to 12 months, even for fertile people. The next time I see my doc I am going to take in my 'filing cabinet' of information I have so she knows I'm serious, IF we don't conceive by then. But hopefully we will.
I will also pray for you and your DH. Every prayer helps!
What CD are you on now? I'm on CD 4 but my cycles are somewhat short thankfully so I should O around the end of next week. I took my ticker off because it was inaccurate and it wouldn't let me fix it.
Seriously, who would have thought that I, or anyone else for that matter, would be exposing EVERYTHING on a website about TTC, and that the response would be SO helpful and supportive! I love it!!
I know what you mean...in my "real" life I never talk about some of the stuff I say on here!!! I am on CD 26 and i am usually pretty regular...but since i have started with the OPK my cycle has gone from a very regular 28 days to varying between 29 and 31. I am really considering doing nothing this cylce.....no counting ...no testing...no nothing.....just take a month off and get ready for the holidays ....then i have my MD appt in Jan...and I will go from there.....
of course this is easier said than done....i know i will obsess about it and start taking tests...lol...and i really feel like there is a reason DH got transfered home....like it is in God's plan for us. Like it will happen this month...i don't know my thoughts are all over the place...
I hope you get your BFP before you go back to the MD!!!
I started talking to Jason (DH) about this stuff so he understands what I'm going through. I went through an emotional fit with him last month. And I'm an emotional person, but only with sadness, not with being mad or wacko. So I was upset and he threw out the 'you need to relax' and I lost it. I said something like 'I wake up everyday at 4:30 to take my temp, I chart that and my cm, I take my vitamins, I carry my monthly planner with me everywhere, I make sure I've read everything I could about fertility and making sure we're doing everything right. What are YOU doing to make this happen?? All I think about every day all day is what my body is doing and why I can't seem to hold an egg in!' Oh I was furious and just stressed. But I always remind myself that men think differently than women. Of course he's not going to be interested in all of that stuff, voluntarily. SO I started informing him of things and he's been REALLY receptive to the things I've suggested.
But there are still some things that only us gals will EVER understand and should only discuss with other women (for sanity's sake).
I hope we both get our BFPs. I just can't even imagine what it is going to be like to see those two lines or that flashing 'Pregnant' display. I really can't.
Oh Lisa I dream of that day !!! I can see in DH eyes that he is getting tired of the process and the fact that we have no BFP to show for all our "hard work" lol.....he said the other day ....you know baby I'm going to be forty in a couple of years you really need to go see the Dr...I said well what if they want me to give myself shots in the stomache...i dont think I can do it to myself...he was like OK no problem I can do that ...i'll stick you anywhere they tell me too!!! lol...i said thanks a lot ....i wouldnt want to inflict pain on YOU ...but i guess men are just different!!! Wonderful but different.....it seems like we both have Dh who are ready to do whatever it takes.....i hope we get to go to the pregnancy pals board together!!!
Jason hasn't really made comments one way or another about how he feels with how long we've been TTC. I think I really felt his seriousness the one morning he came home from the gym and told me that our friends who were trying for 2 weeks were +. I said 'are you freaking kidding me?' which normally wouldn't be my reaction, but I seriously cried through my whole shower that morning thinking 'why is it so easy for everyone else and not us?' so I tried to pull it together before I went back to the bedroom and he asked if I was ok and I just broke down again. Well he hugged me and said 'we just have to keep trying' but I think that was the first time we had a serious moment about TTC. It was all 'fun and games' up to that point. That is probably why he is taking my suggestions with the vitamins and caffiene and he really really wants to be a dad. I forget who else is in this boat but I am not allowed to test without him. If I test, he has to be awake and as soon as I POAS, we have to sit there together and watch it. I would LOVE to suprise him, but he already made his stance known
We've already talked about how we would tell our families and everything, so that part is taken care of. Now it's just having something to tell them that's holding us up!!
awwww that is so sweet that he wants to be there when you test!!!!!!!!! I have days like that also...my DH told me not that long ago that one of his friends wife is pregnant and they only tries for 1 month...then he informed me if it is a girl they are going to name her the exact same name as my daughter ,,,first and middle name!!! I cried about that b/c we had been trying for so long ...anyway I hope you have a great weekend and happy BDing!!! lol...O or not you can practice...lol
WOW, the same exact name, first and middle!?!? That's a bunch of BS!!
We are actually decided on not telling anyone the name until the baby is born AND.....courageously, we are not going to find out the sex either. I've gone back and forth between knowing and not knowing but there's something exciting about that baby coming out and then finding out what you're having, and the dad going into the waiting area announcing what it is. I am going to have a HARD time not finding out, but it's only once for that child....
Hey you have a great weekend too. I just went to a bead shop that is going out of business and got some GREAT deals....time to get stuff made for Christmas!!
Lisa,
I just wanted to butt in here and say I think it's awesome that you're not telling the name until the baby's born...my best friend did that with both her kids, and she said it was nice because they avoided a lot of the stupid things people say when they don't really like the name but want to be polite. (Her kids' names are Ethan Michael and Hillary Quinn.) Also, it's great that you want to be surprised by the baby's gender, too. Make sure they write that on your (future) OB chart in really big letters so that nobody messes up and spills the beans for you!
Hey Ashley!! You're my buddy!! YAY!!!
Ok here's my recap on our TTC journey so far....
DH and I got married on 10-4-08, I am going to be 32 this month and he is 30....decided to wait a few months before we wanted to start trying (which was coordinated with my BFF and her husband as to when they were ready to start trying). Well, they decided they still weren't ready when we were so we started without them! But here we are on our 8th try.
We went from just bd'ing to now, using PreSeed, SoftCups, I take prenatals, b6 and EPO, he is taking a multivitamin and additional 500mg of Vit C, I chart BBT and CM........
SO, there you have it. And here we are. Still trying and still nothing. If nothing happens this month, we are going to get a SA done JUST to make sure the pipes are working...
I'm so glad you're my buddy!!!
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*Lisa*
We did it!!!!
YAY Lisa I am sooo excited we are buddies!!!!
Ok this is where we are: married 11/28/07...we have been together off and on since my daughter was 6 months old and she is now 10. We started trying as soon as we got married b/c I am now 33 and DH (Eddie) is 38. So this month makes a full 2 years for us. My BF also started trying the same time as us and has been pg 3 times since then. Her last pg ended in m/c ...but she has 2 beautiful girls.
I started seeing a new GYN dr this year and have seen her twice...(Jan and July of this year) of course her advice on the first visit was to try another 6 months and let her know...on the july visit she said for me to start with the OPK and let her know at my next appt 1/13/10. I told DH that if we are not pregnant by then I will ask her what the next step is or ask her to refer a fertility Dr.
I will be praying for you everyday and am so looking forward to going through this TTC journey together and encouraging each other.
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I love my doc. She is fantastic. Since we just started around my last appt in April, she said it could take up to 12 months, even for fertile people. The next time I see my doc I am going to take in my 'filing cabinet' of information I have so she knows I'm serious, IF we don't conceive by then. But hopefully we will.
I will also pray for you and your DH. Every prayer helps!
What CD are you on now? I'm on CD 4 but my cycles are somewhat short thankfully so I should O around the end of next week. I took my ticker off because it was inaccurate and it wouldn't let me fix it.
Seriously, who would have thought that I, or anyone else for that matter, would be exposing EVERYTHING on a website about TTC, and that the response would be SO helpful and supportive! I love it!!
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*Lisa*
We did it!!!!
I know what you mean...in my "real" life I never talk about some of the stuff I say on here!!! I am on CD 26 and i am usually pretty regular...but since i have started with the OPK my cycle has gone from a very regular 28 days to varying between 29 and 31. I am really considering doing nothing this cylce.....no counting ...no testing...no nothing.....just take a month off and get ready for the holidays ....then i have my MD appt in Jan...and I will go from there.....
of course this is easier said than done....i know i will obsess about it and start taking tests...lol...and i really feel like there is a reason DH got transfered home....like it is in God's plan for us. Like it will happen this month...i don't know my thoughts are all over the place...
I hope you get your BFP before you go back to the MD!!!
~Ashley
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I started talking to Jason (DH) about this stuff so he understands what I'm going through. I went through an emotional fit with him last month. And I'm an emotional person, but only with sadness, not with being mad or wacko. So I was upset and he threw out the 'you need to relax' and I lost it. I said something like 'I wake up everyday at 4:30 to take my temp, I chart that and my cm, I take my vitamins, I carry my monthly planner with me everywhere, I make sure I've read everything I could about fertility and making sure we're doing everything right. What are YOU doing to make this happen?? All I think about every day all day is what my body is doing and why I can't seem to hold an egg in!' Oh I was furious and just stressed. But I always remind myself that men think differently than women. Of course he's not going to be interested in all of that stuff, voluntarily. SO I started informing him of things and he's been REALLY receptive to the things I've suggested.
But there are still some things that only us gals will EVER understand and should only discuss with other women (for sanity's sake).
I hope we both get our BFPs. I just can't even imagine what it is going to be like to see those two lines or that flashing 'Pregnant' display. I really can't.
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*Lisa*
We did it!!!!
Oh Lisa I dream of that day !!! I can see in DH eyes that he is getting tired of the process and the fact that we have no BFP to show for all our "hard work" lol.....he said the other day ....you know baby I'm going to be forty in a couple of years you really need to go see the Dr...I said well what if they want me to give myself shots in the stomache...i dont think I can do it to myself...he was like OK no problem I can do that ...i'll stick you anywhere they tell me too!!! lol...i said thanks a lot ....i wouldnt want to inflict pain on YOU ...but i guess men are just different!!! Wonderful but different.....it seems like we both have Dh who are ready to do whatever it takes.....i hope we get to go to the pregnancy pals board together!!!
~Ashley
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Jason hasn't really made comments one way or another about how he feels with how long we've been TTC. I think I really felt his seriousness the one morning he came home from the gym and told me that our friends who were trying for 2 weeks were +. I said 'are you freaking kidding me?' which normally wouldn't be my reaction, but I seriously cried through my whole shower that morning thinking 'why is it so easy for everyone else and not us?' so I tried to pull it together before I went back to the bedroom and he asked if I was ok and I just broke down again. Well he hugged me and said 'we just have to keep trying' but I think that was the first time we had a serious moment about TTC. It was all 'fun and games' up to that point. That is probably why he is taking my suggestions with the vitamins and caffiene and he really really wants to be a dad. I forget who else is in this boat but I am not allowed to test without him. If I test, he has to be awake and as soon as I POAS, we have to sit there together and watch it. I would LOVE to suprise him, but he already made his stance known
We've already talked about how we would tell our families and everything, so that part is taken care of. Now it's just having something to tell them that's holding us up!!
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*Lisa*
We did it!!!!
awwww that is so sweet that he wants to be there when you test!!!!!!!!! I have days like that also...my DH told me not that long ago that one of his friends wife is pregnant and they only tries for 1 month...then he informed me if it is a girl they are going to name her the exact same name as my daughter ,,,first and middle name!!! I cried about that b/c we had been trying for so long ...anyway I hope you have a great weekend and happy BDing!!! lol...O or not you can practice...lol
~Ashley
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WOW, the same exact name, first and middle!?!? That's a bunch of BS!!
We are actually decided on not telling anyone the name until the baby is born AND.....courageously, we are not going to find out the sex either. I've gone back and forth between knowing and not knowing but there's something exciting about that baby coming out and then finding out what you're having, and the dad going into the waiting area announcing what it is. I am going to have a HARD time not finding out, but it's only once for that child....
Hey you have a great weekend too. I just went to a bead shop that is going out of business and got some GREAT deals....time to get stuff made for Christmas!!
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*Lisa*
We did it!!!!
Lisa,
and say I think it's awesome that you're not telling the name until the baby's born...my best friend did that with both her kids, and she said it was nice because they avoided a lot of the stupid things people say when they don't really like the name but want to be polite. (Her kids' names are Ethan Michael and Hillary Quinn.) Also, it's great that you want to be surprised by the baby's gender, too. Make sure they write that on your (future) OB chart in really big letters so that nobody messes up and spills the beans for you! 
I just wanted to butt in here
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-Jennifer C.
