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Welcome Lisa K!!!

Hope to hear about your journey as well!

Butterfly99, you're too funny! I agree, it's so hard not to obsess about all the testing, charting, symptoms, etc. I've limited myself to opk and bbt; I never believe any of my 'symptoms' since they are too similar to AF signs. Sounds like you have a really understanding DH regarding all of the odd positions that are supposed to help after BD!

It will be so nice when you take your awesome vacation though! Great break from the TTC madness!! Party woo hoo!

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Hi Ladies!! Thank you so much for you Welcomes!! Im sorry it took so long for me to respond. Im having trouble navigating on the the site..lol. Its alittle late and Im tired. I will come back and share my story with you girls. Smile

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Hello Everyone!! My name is Lisa. Im 31 years old. I just recently got married in Sept 2009. Since the wedding, my husband and I have been trying to have a baby. We had taken a break for about a month or two. I didnt know how much work trying to get pregnant could be. I always thought it was going to be this easy process and Ive grown to know now, its not as easy as it seems. Ive been to my obgyn. He said that everything is good with me. He advised me to keep trying for about 6 months and if Im not pregnant within 6 months to call and make another apointment. Ive read alot of information on the internet and I think Im becoming a pro..lol.. Hardly! Its so hard to stay postive with this journey were all going through. Most of my friends have children and or due to have a child shortly. Here I am trying and nothing seems to be working. Basically, Ive cut all caffeine out of my system and am taking vitamins regularly. Ive been using OPK's to help me with this process since I dont have a normal cycle. I get my period regulary but, I have about a 30-32 day cycle. So, I dont know exactly when I ovulate. The problem with the OPK's is that, when I use the strips that I was using Answer Brand. When I use it, I always get a postive. I didnt know at first what that really meant but, after researching the internet. I think I have high lh levels. Ive just recently have been checking my CM and using a different brand of OPK's and just got Fertil focus. Im hoping that this will help me to understand when I might ovulate. Im not sure if I ovulated this month. I got my period on 4/2/10 and didnt get the OPK and the Fertile focus and use them until 4/14/10. I checked for ferning and there was none. But when I used the opk it was positive. The weird thing is, is I had no other positives since the 14th. Im not sure if I have cysts or if I might have pcos. Im hoping and praying that I dont. But, have any of you heard of this before? I havent found much info about high lh. And when I do its basically tells me its pcos. But, Ive thought to myself, hmmm... do I have any of these conditions? And I dont think that I do. So I guess Im just guessing at what else it could be but, Im not sure. I could call my obgyn to have them check my levels but, I know Im not a Dr. to diagnois myself. But, I think there is something going on. I just figured, well..Ill see how this month turns out. I hope babydust comes my way.. and thats me in a nutshell for now... Wink

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hi Everyone Smile

Sorry for not being here i had a little trouble finding this forum hahaha
anyways am probably the youngest of all on here Puzzled am 22 years old very smart and mature for being my age . Well its been 6 weeks and 5 days of me taking fertilaid, fertilcm ,and fertiltea i know that sounds like alot huh ? but they said its best to take them all together . And its been working pretty well i wanted to know what a surge test is for ? how can that help me in TTC ? i have heard that if you see any spotting that it can be ovulation is this true ? am sorry if i sound dumb right now i just don't know much about all of this and i will really be glad if someone can help me out answering my questions . Big smile i want to wish you girls lots of baby dust ! Butterfly been here for me all the way and i want to thank her so much!!! are any of you taking clomid or something to help you girls get pregnant or you girls are just going with the flow and doing everything naturally ?

- Thanks in advance and i will try to be here more often i love talking to nice and open minded people God Bless

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Faithful, no worries about asking questions...we all had to start learning someplace!!
LH (luteinizing hormone) is a hormone that is released by the pituitary gland approximately 24-48 hours prior to ovulation in your body. It is the hormone that essentially tells the ovary to release the egg. So when people talk about the "surge" that's what they are referring to... the LH surge is a signal that ovulation is coming, so you can time your sex in line with that. It's best to have sex around ovulation because sperm can live inside you for 3-5 days, but the egg only lives for 24 hours after ovulation. So, ovulation prediction tests/kits (OPKs) detect that hormone surge (you can buy them on early-pregnancy-tests.com)... and you have to take them every day because typically the luteinizing hormone can only be detected for a 24 hour period. Also, I'm not sure about spotting around ovulation, but you can check your cervical mucus which is a definite sign that ovulation is coming. If you notice, your discharge through your cycle has different stages. It can be creamy some days... but what you want to look for is something a little gooier... kind of like egg whites (referred to on here as EWCM= egg white cervical mucus), where if you spread it between your fingers it stretches. This is what the female body produces to help the swimmers get to the egg. Unless you're like a lot of us and don't produce enough cervical mucus (like me!) in which case they make pre-seed, which is a lubricant designed to assist those swimmers. Other lubricants (like KY) actually kill sperm. Does that help? Smile

Lisa, first of all congratulations on your marriage!! What an exciting time.
I'm 34 just so you know...I also have approximately 30 day cycles.
How long have you been off the pill? It could be possible that your hormones are still regulating if it was just recently around your wedding... (?)
Do you BBT Chart? this could definitely help you in determining if you ovulate. And, if you're wanting to be more proactive, I'd call that doctor up and tell him you want to be more proactive. I think a lot of doctors give us that standard "wait 6 more months" CRAP because they know it takes the average couple several months of trying, and there's only a 20% chance of getting pregnant in every cycle.....but for whatever it's worth, I wish I would have started down the road of testing and stuff a LOT sooner than I did because now I feel like my age (and my insanity with this whole thing) might be becoming a problem...so if you're feeling like being passive isn't what you want, I would encourage you to talk to him and see if you can get a plan in place...if not, you could always talk to a different doctor.
I don't know much about PCOS, but you could post a forum either under the TTC heading or the "support" heading and I'm sure you'll get some advice, as I do know that some women on here have it (in fact there may be a thread on it already, but I'm not sure).
I totally self-diagnose too! Sometimes I've been right on with things... you know your body better than anyone, so if you're having symptoms that concern you, it's worth writing down and talking to your doctor (I always preface my conversations "I know I'm a hypochondriac, BUT...."). hehe. Let us know what you decide to do, I'll be thinking about you!! In the meantime, use this forum as a resource as much as you want!

Sandy, I love your picture... it makes me want to be at a beach right now just being calmed by the waves and sun... Smile

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Sad Girls am having so much problems in my life right now and its so hard to move on , i have no one to talk too and i just feel so alone i don't know what to do anymore am feeling like killing myself since no one cares about me . I have no one to turn too and i feel like my husband will leave me if i can't give him a child!! and my mother always making me feel like shit i can't handle this anymore!! Puzzled

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Faithful, Im so sorry to hear that you feel that way. I know I have days when Im down and out and dont feel like anyone cares. Its an awful feeling. Im sure you husband loves you. And Im sure he wont leave you if you cant get pregnant. Please dont kill yourself. I know in the few months of me trying to get pregnant. Its been real hard when you think youve done everything right and still get a BFN. I get down and my husband always say, "its just not our time yet" And I think to myself. Yes, it may not be our time. But, it kills me to know I have to go through all the motions to get ready for BDancing again and figure out when Im going to ovulate or if I dont. Sometimes, I feel like my husband doesnt understand. Im the type of person that when I want something. Ill do anything I can do to work for it. And I do. But, I also know how you feel with nobody cares and you feel you have knowone to talk too. I myself and here to talk to at anytime so always remember that. And Im sure the girls here will be here for you also. My husband doesnt know I joined this group. I have know one to talk to except him. We havent told anyone weve been trying. Ive told two close friends but, they dont seem to have the time to talk to me as they already have children and dont understand with having any complications getting pregnant. So, I decided to join here. To hopefully make friends and to have someone to talk to that understand what were all going through. Im sure you can always count on us. Keep your head up. It will all work out for the best!! Sending Babydust to you and (((hug)) to make you feel better. Laughing out loud

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oh Faithful, I'm so sorry too! PLEASE DON'T KILL YOURSELF!! WE CARE!!!! And your husband definitely cares. You are a strong amazing woman who has faced so much in her life... God has a plan, you know this in your head, try to find it in your heart. Breathe, pray, but please take a step back- you will get through this! I do completely understand where you are... in the middle of depression and hopelessness...I tried to commit suicide once in college, and understand now that God has a purpose for me, even if I don't know what it is....He has a purpose for you too, my friend!! Talk to your husband... please. Tell him how you feel and that you're scared. Please please! As for your mom, get yourself away from her until you can get to a healthy place in life where she doesn't hurt you around every corner. As impossible as it seems, you can take some steps to gain a little control in your life so it doesn't keep spiraling. Talk to your pastor, or someone at church...or call KLOVE. but please don't kill yourself... I am sending you HUGE hugs and prayers for strength and courage.

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Lisa, that's kind of why I joined here too. I felt like no one truly understood where I am. I have a couple friends who are TTC as well but none have been trying as long as we and none have done all the testing and are to the place we are. It is SO helpful to have other wonderful women on whom to lean. My husband does know I joined here now, and was actually glad, because he knows he doesn't understand every emotion and up and down that I'm having... this forum has been a huge blessing. Baby dust to you too! Smile

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Faithful,

I hope you don't mind me jumping in here....

I know the TTC journey is one of very intense emotions and it can make you feel like you have hit rock bottom time and time again.

Because of this it is sooo important to take care of yourself so that you feel strong and healthy emotionally. It might be a good idea to let your doctor know how you are feeling so that he/she can help you get some more support right now. You don't have to be alone.

Also, if you are open to counseling, yoga, exercise of some sort, pilates..... something that can help with an emotional release, it might feel good as well.

Know that you are not alone and that you are surrounded by women who totally get how you are feeling. It will get better, even though it is really hard to see through the darkness right now.

If you are not comfortable with your doctor, is there someone at church you can talk to?

Take care of yourself,
Sending you healthy strong thoughts!!
Smile Elizabeth

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